Women (don't) like jerks

[breakinglight11]

I remember when I first saw Iron Man 1 in theaters. I found Tony to be incredibly hot, and this annoyed me, because he was a jerk, and I didn’t like the idea that such jerkiness wouldn’t kill my attraction to him. Every time I see Jon Hamm, the guy who plays Don Draper, out of character, I’m always struck- “He’s so attractive! Why do I never notice

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[waitingonsunday]

Just passing through, saw this from the LJ homepage, and wanted to say how much I enjoyed reading it. I think you hit the nail on the head.

This also made me laugh a little to myself, because this reminded me that my first exposure to Jon Hamm was in Bridesmaids and I was like, "Wait, aren't people always talking about how hot this guy is? Gross." But then I saw him outside of the movie later and was struck by how good-looking he really is.

[offside7]

This, all of this. I always want to scream, it's not the jerkiness that women are attracted to, it's the confidence, and in fiction that sometimes gets wrapped up in jerkiness. I read people writing things like "if I were a jerk like him, I'd attract women" and it's like... no, if you were /confident/ you would, and if you were nice, they'd stick around.

[ale_irenear]

Agree, while I would love to date one of the Avengers or a hot TV character...

If I met someone that since the beginning acts like a jerk I would most likely reject any contact later on..