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Stupid spam... I'm going through 1500 that dumped into our spam folder in the last ten days, and the folder's prolly been full since last Thursday...
Anyway.
UPDATE: Argh! It just keeps growing! Um. No pun... *snickers*
UPDATE: My helper, mresundance advises me that the problem is that the boyfriend is TOO SMALL! Well, I thought he must be too big ( Read more... )
Anyway.
UPDATE: Argh! It just keeps growing! Um. No pun... *snickers*
UPDATE: My helper, mresundance advises me that the problem is that the boyfriend is TOO SMALL! Well, I thought he must be too big ( Read more... )
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??? I read Dan Savage every week, and have never noticed him fearing bisexuality in the least. In fact he's sure to pipe up with the facts when people quote the "bad" research on bisexuality.
(Also? Danny J.'s mouth is SO not tiny! ;-)
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And I no longer believe that most bisexuals wind up in them because you're all liars and cheats, or that you're all dying to access societal perks reserved for heterosexuals, or that you're all cowards and it's hard out here for a homo. I think most bisexuals wind up in heterosexual relationships because most bisexuals are mostly hetero. You may be physically attracted to both sexes, but most of you can only fall in love with an opposite-sex partner.
Yeah, to his credit, his trying to change his old tune, but it's basically the same: bisexuality isn't legit, isn't real, and you're pretty much straight in denial or mostly hetero or something.
I like him okay, he has some neat insights sometimes, but sometimes in the past he has been an arsehole about this issue and continues to be in some ways.
I'm sorry, Dan, but we can't just uninvite the bisexual kids because you're afraid you might get some straight cooties today.
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http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=2859
Sorry, but avoiding bi guys is a good rule of thumb for gay men looking for long-term relationships. Outside of San Francisco's alternate-universe bisexual community, there aren't many bi guys who want or wind up in long-term, same-sex relationships -- monogamous or not. Surely it's not news to you that people are put under a lot of pressure to choose partners of the opposite sex. The number of homos who succumb to this pressure is staggering, so it should come as no shock that most bisexuals wind up with opposite-sex partners. And while many straight men are delighted to discover their girlfriends are bisexual, most straight women are not delighted to discover their boyfriends are bisexual. Consequently, bi guys who want opposite sex partners are under tremendous pressure to stay closeted. And when a guy is closeted -- as most bi guys are -- he can't really be there for his ( ... )
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I've seen that attitude, a lot, from both gays and straights. I had a lovely -- read "uncomfortable" -- moment outing myself to a new boyfriend's stepfather at a family dinner when he pronounced that 'you know who was disgusting was all bisexuals -- they're cheaters and liars.' To be fair he backpedaled very quickly and was pleased to meet an out-and-proud bi, and I know he was friends with a couple who got divorced because the husband had been sneaking off and tricking for years until he got busted. It is the cheaters and liars who give that rep to bis.
And Dan's right -- if it were more acceptable to be bi (or gay) instead of married-with-children, people wouldn't lie so much. But you're right, too -- considering that gays dealt for years with the stereotype that they were all nancing drag queens, Dan would do well to not make such sweeping pronouncements. San Francisco's alternate-universe community has had a powerful impact on national ( ... )
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You just cried! :P
Poor boy with no penial motor skillz.
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Maybe he's just too SLIPPERY??????
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