Whoever is sending (or sent) these things should have sent them to you also. If it was your mother's lawyer, a phone call reminding him of his legal obligations might help.
It's Compushare that sends the statements out, and I gather from speaking to them today that for whatever reason, they still have my grandmother's name and address on their files despite the fact that I have a copy of the Power of Attorney from when the shares were transferred. (If they weren't in Montreal, I'd go to their office.)
That was my point: somehow they are getting to your mother. Whoever is sending them to her needs to be sending you copies as well. Not doing so sounds like malpractice, or malfeasance, or some kind of Bad Lawyer thing.
My brother and I were joint executors of our Dad's estate. It was suggested early in the process that it would be easier for the lawyer to send things to my brother, because he and the lawyer live in the States, and it can be a pain to send things to Canada (or expensive to Fed-Ex it). I agreed because I trust my brother to be both honest and competent, but I would have been well within my rights to insist on getting a copy of everything.
My intention is that if the paperwork for the bank account and shares isn't done by then, both will be done at the same time, at the lawyer's office. She can hardly refuse to live up to our agreement while sitting in front of the lawyer, when several months ago, he spelled the whole thing out to her.
She can hardly refuse to live up to our agreement while sitting in front of the lawyer, when several months ago, he spelled the whole thing out to her.
Of course not. Your mother would never do anything completely irrational, or try to reneg on an agreement she made with you. Oh, wait...
Do not underestimate how manipulative a mother can be. Do not assume she'll act like a grownup in front of a lawyer. She can play games. Don't sign condo paperwork until the shares are resolved.
But that would require my mother to make copies, and she doesn't think I "need" them. I asked once, "What if you have a fire and everything is lost?"
Wrong question. The question is "Given that they are currently in part legally my property, what time should my lawyer call you to explain to you why I do in fact "need" copies of all items that are legally in part mine?"
You'll never win on logic, so stick to the law. :)
Andrew is exactly right. She's been your mother for over 38 years; I doubt that this is the week she will suddenly realize that you are right.
It doesn't matter if you need them, what matters is that you are legally entitled to them. She can explain to your lawyer why she thinks you don't need them, and see how well that works out for her.
On second thought, strike that. Perhaps her lawyer should explain to your lawyer why you weren't given your copies in the first place.
He did, the last time we were in the office, but she chose to interpret his remarks as censuring me for not letting her do as she wants, because at one point he said that he didn't feel that it was his place to tell me to obey her. The fact that he followed this up by telling her that I was in the right didn't register. She hears what she wants to hear.
If this isn't wrapped up this week, I'm going to be making a few phone calls of my own. Specifically, she said that she was going to be calling Compushare tomorrow (see the post I just made for more details).
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But yeah, a call to the lawyer couldn't hurt.
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My brother and I were joint executors of our Dad's estate. It was suggested early in the process that it would be easier for the lawyer to send things to my brother, because he and the lawyer live in the States, and it can be a pain to send things to Canada (or expensive to Fed-Ex it). I agreed because I trust my brother to be both honest and competent, but I would have been well within my rights to insist on getting a copy of everything.
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Of course not. Your mother would never do anything completely irrational, or try to reneg on an agreement she made with you. Oh, wait...
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But that would require my mother to make copies, and she doesn't think I "need" them. I asked once, "What if you have a fire and everything is lost?"
Wrong question. The question is "Given that they are currently in part legally my property, what time should my lawyer call you to explain to you why I do in fact "need" copies of all items that are legally in part mine?"
You'll never win on logic, so stick to the law. :)
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It doesn't matter if you need them, what matters is that you are legally entitled to them. She can explain to your lawyer why she thinks you don't need them, and see how well that works out for her.
On second thought, strike that. Perhaps her lawyer should explain to your lawyer why you weren't given your copies in the first place.
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If this isn't wrapped up this week, I'm going to be making a few phone calls of my own. Specifically, she said that she was going to be calling Compushare tomorrow (see the post I just made for more details).
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