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Explaining other kids' behavior to your kids?

Jun 18, 2009 15:17

My 7 year old daughter was invited to a birthday party taking place after school today. Since she'd spent last night at her dad's, and I think taking a birthday gift to school is super-tacky, she didn't take the gift with her to school, and I'd also bought the gift without her. Point being, she didn't know I HAD picked up a gift, though we'd ( Read more... )

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merlyn4401 June 18 2009, 21:21:00 UTC

I'd probably say something like "Well, you have a gift for birthday girl so don't worry about it" while mentally cussing out said birthday girl while simultaneously reminding myself that the kid is 7.

I was horrified when Jamie was uber-focused on what he was going to get as presents at his last party because we have never focused on that and have tried to raise him with a sense of gratitude. After talking to some other moms, it appears to be unfortunately common at that age.

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spamwarrior June 18 2009, 23:05:04 UTC

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velvetpage June 18 2009, 22:06:12 UTC

For my daughter's fifth, we suggested that gifts were not necessary, but if someone wished to bring gifts, we'd be making a donation in my daughter's name and they could contribute to that, too. It went over very well.

This year, I offered her the chance to do the same thing, and she decided she wanted presents, so I didn't quibble. Hopefully we can get back that spirit of generosity in a couple of years.

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chrispina June 18 2009, 21:23:49 UTC

keep the gift and write on a piece of paper "a littlest pet shop super duper princess party playset has been donated to a homeless child in your name"

but really, tell your kid that the birthday girl was being very rude and that it's probably not a good idea to play with her much anyway.

alirose June 18 2009, 21:25:57 UTC

win.

yolen June 18 2009, 21:39:26 UTC

love it !

lordhellebore June 18 2009, 21:23:54 UTC

I would have said the same as you did, and I have already on several occasions. That is, I haven't used the word brat, but made very clear that what happened was very wrong behaviour and I didn't want to see it from her. We had the "not my friend if you don't do X" scenario a few times as well, and I always told my daughter that it's actually the other kid's loss, and if the other kid wanted to behave silly, there was nothing we could do.

owlsarentaholes June 18 2009, 21:27:58 UTC

I'd tell my kid that birthday kid was an ungrateful little asswipe. Or something like that.

We'd still give the gift and all, but I'd be grumbling about the kid for awhile after. That's so nasty.