Teenagers and multiple abortions

[unbreakablelife]

Someone I know has just found out her 17 year old daughter has had 3 abortions in the last year. She has been with her boy friend for over 2 years. I know she was given very good sex education from her parents. She is at college and working part time and is a lovely hard working girl. It turns out even though she has been told all about safe sex,

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[s3a]

I'd be really disappointed, for one. I'd probably yell and want to beat her sensless.

BUT. I'd ask her why she didn't take her birth control pill, did she just forget? Was it too hard for her to keep track of? Maybe she'd be more intererested in something like the NuvaRing or the birth control patch, or an IUD. Also, I'd probably talk to her about the risk of having so many abortions, so close together. When there comes a time that she may want to have a child, (depending on what point in the pregnancy she got the abortion) she's going to be at higher risk for a premature baby.

And why the fuck didn't she use a condom if she was going to be so irresponsible with her birth control pills? And why didn't the FIRST abortion serve as a wake-up call? And, really, why didn't she feel comfortable enough with me to talk to me about this major thing that was going on in her life?

[blue_stealth]

At 17, could her mother take her to get the shot, instead of the pill?

If it was my daughter, I'd be upset. I'd probably have forced her to get the shot instead, seeing that she is obviously not able to take the pill (for whatever reason). I think I'd probably try to get her into couselling too, as she's in need of some guidance (in one way or another) to help her through what MUST be a tough period.

[mamaof2boys0607]

I'd be upset. Very, very upset and wonder how she doesn't regard the things she's doing is wrong, and why if she can afford to get these abortions, why can't she afford to get birth control? I'd definitely have her talk to some sort of doctor and explain the risks of having so many abortions.

If none of that worked, I just don't think I could talk with her for a really, really long time. It might be her body (and yes, I'm pro-choice) but seeing as I went through abortion and I regret it everyday I don't see how she could carry on and pretend like it's nothing when I remember that "baby" every single day, and there isn't a day that I don't feel sorrow for what I did.

[unbreakablelife]

Here they are free so money wouldnt be a factor.

Also some women dont remember or regret.

[chrispina]

free? is birth control also free?

[unbreakablelife]

Yes its free also to everyone not matter what your income.

[ol_whatshername]

My question is what is this doing to her own body? Not to mention that if I found out she kill my grandchildren I'd be some pissed.

[nizlopi]

I would be LIVID, I really would. I think Id yell at her and not speak to her for a while. One abortion is ... well, not OK, but its understandable, 2 is pushing it, but 3?? And within a year? That to me makes it seem like you have no respect for yourself.