Calling all dancers-input on this list appreciated!

[boobiebar]

So, I got an e-mail tonight from a girl interested in starting to dance. In the course of our convo, I sent her this list of etiquette for dancers. Honestly, I'm surprised I haven't written something like this out yet.

Weigh in if you'd like, dancers! And obviously everyone else is welcome to read/ask questions.

Comments

[ouija_monkey]

my besr friend did a feature thing for a year (she has a well known pay site) where we drove around in a camper all over canda. besides that being a blast i amazed by what i saw in clubs.
and they ranged from fantastic air conditioned change rooms to scary, all the the girls had to use the clubs only lady room complete with backed up toilets.
i use to think that dancers would have this imcredible sisterhood where they woulf look out for each other, really its like high school but nakeder and with music

[verminiusrex]

"Like high school but nakeder and with music."

Excellent word choice.

[brownkitty]

Not a dancer, never have been and never will be due to lack of good body type and too much stage fright. However, I have a suggestion for the list.

You're a dancer. That does not make you better than the DJ, the bouncers, or any wait staff who might be around (or any other jobs I might be missing). They aren't your servants, they're people. Treat them as people, it'll make them more likely to treat you that way too.

[lavyndergirl1]

while i completely agree that treating people like people is always a great plan, the other thing to remember, though is that people come to strip clubs to see the naked girls - DJ's, bouncers, waitresses, etc, get tipped out down the line by the dancers. being a dancer does not make you better than anyone else in the club, absolutely. but the more money the dancers make, the more money everyone else makes - so within reason, it behooves everyone to help the dancers make the most money possible.

[mamapduck]

True to a point... but a dancer will look pretty silly shaking her shit with no music to guys who can't get a drink and don't get put in place when needed. Like salespeople, the dancer is the front-of-house money maker but the support staff is crucial to success and deserves to be treated with respect.

[squigglz]

Definitely. It's a relationship where EVERYONE has to contribute-front of house, back of house, everyone.

The customers wouldn't be there (and they couldn't charge so much more for drinks) if the dancers aren't there, and without the owners, bartenders, etc, the dancer wouldn't have a place to dance.

Everyone needs to work with everyone else, and that means respect given to EVERYONE that works there-not just dancers, not just regular employees.

[rickvs]

Related to some of the other comments, do you have an etiquette suggestion on what to do with a customer that treats *another* dancer in a way that should get him bounced? Would you notify the bouncer yourself, or let it be the other dancer's call? (I can see arguments being made for both sides, and was curious if there's a universal rule I'm missing).

[boobiebar]

Notify a bouncer.

These are rules re: dancers interacting with other dancers, not a whole rule list.

[blueashke]

Having been reading you for several years, as well as a girlfriend who used to dance, how about rules about where to work?

Check the place out, ask questions about policies, expect that those policies will be followed. If you find yourself working in a place where the bouncers don't bounce, the owner lets customers get away with being handsy, or anything else that is above and beyond usual asshattery - get OUT. If you can't trust your management to keep you safe, no job is worth it.

[lightsdarkangel]

Been reading, who knows how long [[kind of use it for basis when I rp characters that dance :)]]. This is just a random question. I know that a good portion of the clubs have a no touchy rule. If a patron wanted a hug [[so I'm weird, but I like to hug people lol]] would that be considered part of the 'no touchy' thing. I'd understand if they say 'i have to put clothes on first' or something.

Just a random question, sorry if it's weird.

[boobiebar]

Being asked for a hug from a random patron does weird me right the hell out, not gonna lie. Plenty of girls will hug you if you ask, yeah, but some (like me) will likely say no. It implies a level of closeness that doesn't exist in that relationship, kwim?

[lightsdarkangel]

Fully understandable and I thank you for your honesty. [[Told you it was probably weird ]]