Meme

[bluflamingo]

Comment on this post. I will choose seven interests from your profile and you will explain what they mean and why you are interested in them. Post this along with your answers in your own journal so others can play along.

sidlj gave me:

1. Criminal Minds

The first episode I saw was the first episode of the second season, so it says something about how

Comments

[carta]

my most frequent feminist moment is refusing to sit down when a man stands up for me on the bus, so that we both stand the whole way.

Heh - I very happily sit down. My bus ride is an hour; if someone else wants to stand that long in Chicago traffic, they are welcome to it. My feminist take on it is that I don't expect them to, and am perfectly happy to let them make a pointless gesture that lets me ride in comfort. ames - contributing to male foot fatigue since 1973. :D

[bluflamingo]

My feminist take on it is that I don't expect them to, and am perfectly happy to let them make a pointless gesture that lets me ride in comfort.

Fair enough. To be honest, it's less the standing that bugs me - though it does - and more the way they won't sit down after I say no thank you. I mean, they've made the gesture, I've acknowledged it and not accepted it, sit the hell down again and stop making it into a big drama, you know?

[10pmpacifictime]

my most frequent feminist moment is refusing to sit down when a man stands up for me on the bus, so that we both stand the whole way.

While on a school trip I wanted to stand on the subway and my teacher and fellow students bullied me into sitting when a male friend offered me a seat. I had thanked him politely, but said I liked standing, but they kept telling me to sit. Later they told me it was rude and mean when I said no.

Ten years later this still bothers me a bit and wish I'd been able to express to them how they weren't respecting what I wanted.

[bluflamingo]

Ten years later this still bothers me a bit and wish I'd been able to express to them how they weren't respecting what I wanted.

Yes, this, exactly! Politely saying 'no thank you, I'd rather stand' is not rude! Making a fuss about how someone refuses to sit down after you *oh so gentlemanly* stood up is rude, and making it all about his so generous gesture at the expense of what you actually want.

My mum and I argue about whether it was hypocritical for me to accept helpin various ways from the guys at the theatre but not a stranger standing up for me. My argument was always that they were helping *me*, because they liked me and wanted to, or knew I actually couldn't do what I was doing or whatever, not because they had to make a gesture. It wouldn't even be so bad if the guy would say okay and sit down again - it's the fuss and drama that bugs me.

[10pmpacifictime]

I'm not even bothered by his offering, because it's polite to think of someone other than yourself. I regularly hold open doors for other people and am pleased and say thank you when others do the same. But calling me rude when I said pleasantly, "No, thank you..."

No means no, people. It's not just for sex.

[bluflamingo]

No means no, people. It's not just for sex.

I'm so using that next time a guy won't sit down after I say no.

[bergann]

Choose away!

And I believe in things that we can't explain yet, like psychic powers and seeing the future; I just can't accept that we're really at the point where we know everything there is to be known, so that we can say these things are impossible. It's like going into space - I just can't believe that we're done with human space travel for exploration of other bodies in space, or that we're done with the moon. There's got to be more out there.

I agree with this so much. To me it's just unbelievably depressing to think that this is it. I refuse to believe there's nothing more to discover. There is always more. That's the beauty of living, you'll always have something new to learn. Something new to experience.

[bluflamingo]

There is always more

Exactly. I don't understand scientists who make amazing discoveries claiming that because we can't understand something it must not be real. I just - don't they see the irony?!?

Choose away!

Air force, dancing, Colby Granger, the history boys, shoebox project, csi new york and cake or death

[sidlj]

#2. When I was a kid and rode the bus pretty often, I'd always offer to stand and let an adult sit down. But, you know, I'll bet it was always women that I made the offer to. I really can't remember for certain. Long before I'd ever heard of feminism at any rate. :-)

4. Ah, Torvil and Dean! They were simply wonderful. I still watch figure skating, and I've been very disappointed this past season because American TV has almost completely stopped carrying coverage of the sport. :-(

6. That's David Caruso who plays Horatio (and very oddly, from the little I've seen of the show). I loved him when he was on the first season of NYPD Blue. And then he left the show to become "a star", and nobody on the set had a single good word to say about him. Definitely avoid him on the bus! But if he offers you a seat... lol.

[bluflamingo]

When I was a kid and rode the bus pretty often, I'd always offer to stand and let an adult sit down

So did I. I still offer for people who seem like standing wouldn't be easy, who are mostly older people. It's polite, because thet seem less able to stand (and also because if they say no, I sit down again). I can even accept a guy offering to stand for me, if he accepts my polite no and sits down. It's the continuing to stand to make a point that annoys me.

Definitely avoid him on the bus! But if he offers you a seat... lol.

Hmm, yeah, he seems like he'd lecture me or something for refusing. Knowing my luck with creeps on the bus, he'd sit next to me. This is why I travel with my ipod and my book - pre-emptive strike against Horatio Caine :o)

[athousanderrors]

Ooh, me!

[bluflamingo]

Talk about: tea, costume, due south, tonks, firefly, eyeliner and terry pratchett (interesting fact - all three of the people who I've picked for list terry pratchett in their interests. Not sure why it's interesting, but to me it is. Also because I love his books - I saw him speak once, and he was great).