Is it hereditary?

[blue_hearts]

I don't understand it when a mother and daughter get along. I just don't understand it. I try and try but I just cannot get along with my mother. I don't understand why I don't get along with her. I just don't and I don't think I ever will. Honestly, if she continues on the way she has been, I don't think I would want to get along with her. I

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[unicornssong]

wellll..everyone's mom/daughter relationship is different. STrive to get a comfortable balance between the two of you instead of trying to achieve what you think is a norm. maybe something patient, but firm?

[blue_hearts]

yeah, obviously, you haven't spent more than a day with her. try it. your response won't be the same.

[unicornssong]

maybe. but then my mom is v. different with me than she is with my friends. so i don't know if a day+ will make much of a diff.

[keikokin]

My mother and I didn't get along either. I often suffered bouts of guilt over it or just got angry. Yes, I got jealous over girls/boys that were so CLOSE to their mother. But it just never happened. Now that she's died it will be a constant regret but it was the way things were. Yes, we had our moments that I will remember fondly but the bad times far outweighed them. My one sister is yet to cry over her death. She can never forgive her. I can forgive her now. I just can't forget. But I've grown to understand a bit. Even though I so wanted us to be close she was going through too much on her own plate to really deal with me. Plus I firmly believe some folks are NOT meant to be parents. The maternal instinct is not an instinct. That's a falsehood, it just seems so common that others pegged it as that. You aren't alone. Stop beating yourself up about it. And if you need to rant I'm here for you. *hugs and love*