Wedding Bell Blues

[blithescribe]

My sister and her fiance have been engaged for exactly 22 days.  The wedding is, in theory, well more than a year away.  And, yet, my sister and my mother are already at one another's throats over wedding plans.  Trust me, this surprises no one who is familiar with the parties involved.

I love both women very much but, in this particular instance,

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[mortgaged]

Things your sister might be able to do without driving Mom insane:

1)work on the Guest list, your sister is so close with so many members of the family that I hardly think she needs Mom's help(is that proper punctuation?). Yes she will need your folks for some of the addresses but she and Kevin can start figuring this now without needing help. Also starting to figure the guest list will help them decide what kind of venue they are doing for the Wedding/reception. I would assume that they will get married in your folks church that might not be a forgone conclusion. But whether the guest list is 100 or 200, that is going to direct where the reception can be held.

2) checking availability of reception locations. If when you mom is ready, she came to her with a list of 4 or 5 locations with approximate cost per guest, your mom would probably be thrilled, or am I reading the situation wrong again?

3) Research photography options.

4) Smoke a nice fat bowl and chill the f*** out.

[spiritdancing]

Wow. It's almost like you've done this before. ;)

[mortgaged]

Well just the one time.

The most impressive to me is still my sister's wedding as far as coming together, she put the entire event together in less than three months. They got engaged in January and got married in August, but she was on the orad with a show until mid May.

goody bag when out of town guest arrived in Manhattan that included a small map of manhattan, subway tokens, itinerary, and specialty food(I don't recall what it was exactly). Scheduled event morning of the wedding, a boat tour that goes around the island. Car service from church to reception, Reception was in the ballroom of a girls school across from the Metropolitan Museum of Art very tasteful with a jazz quintet for dancing.

Everything was just perfectly orchestrated but then she was a broadway stagemanager so what do you expect.

[spiritdancing]

Well, there you go!!

Anybody who doesn't think that a wedding is a "show," is fooling themselves, and a person who puts shows together for a living is probably the perfect coordinator. Sounds like a great wedding!

[mortgaged]

Sorry you're dealing with this crap

[blithescribe]

Thank you Sweetie. I love you. I really am just trying to stay out of it though.

Actually the Music Says even more

[mortgaged]

Good morning, dearly beloved

Re: Actually the Music Says even more

[blithescribe]

I didn't mean that the lyrics were representative of the situation word for word by any means, but the overall tone of exasperation with (some) weddings and appearences vs. what's actually going on under the surface of some weddings seemed appropriate.

[serista]

What mortgaged said.. Or if your sister is going to be truly impatient, she could simply pay for the wedding herself...

[blithescribe]

I mentioned that. I also mentioned eloping. She didn't like either option much for some odd reason, so she's stuck.

[mortgaged]

I don't know, if she elopes, it could be even more all about her. Think of the Upheaval it would cause.

[blithescribe]

If she elopes, we are going to Germany...for a month or so!