What do I do with my life.

[blasphemina]

So let's look at the bullshit as it stands right now

Comments

[wear_your_rue]

Having once moved to a town like that (few blacks, no resources), I really, strongly advise against that choice. I was miserable and fell into a deep depression. I know you'll miss Ryan a lot if you go the other route, but you'll still have your life and you'll be able to do what you love. And it won't be forever.

*big hugs* I'm so sorry it's come down to this, I hope things get better for you two soon.

[blasphemina]

I was raised in a similar town with double to pop, but just as awful a small town mentality.

[sparklewolfie]

(((hug))) Have you guys visited the neighborhood/area that his school is in? It might not be as racist as you think :o My high school had a grand total of I think 3-5 black kids (and they were full black) but there wasn't really any racism issues ever.

Would it be possible for you to get a PART time job? So you still have free days to devote entirely to BC? I really think that Ryan needs to go for his dream job :o And it could end up being great for both of you, but it wouldn't be good to be separated for so long :(

And as much as you dislike it, I really think you could get good publicity by posting your Etsy on egl_comm_sales :) There are a lot of newbies (also, yay summertime!) who probably don't know about the indie brands yet!!

Good luck ♥♥

[blasphemina]

I know it's bigoted because I know people who lived/were raised/went to college there. One of whom is my best friend's husband who is transgendered. He had a pretty shit life there. I've been there once. It's HORRID!

I'll try the part time route, it was just hard when i did it before and I had a 1/3 of the orders back then.

And as far as egl_comm_sales, I just worry that it will start drama since so many of the mean girls don't like me because it's cool to not like me. And on top of it, I'm moving away from Lolita and this collection was not Lolita.

Grace, it means a lot that you gave me so many suggestions. I'm going to look into part time jobs.

[sparklewolfie]

Holy crap that sounds completely awful! Hole up in the basement and never come out??? @___@ Just kidding, that'd be terrible and you would die of Vitamin D deficiency and then I would cry

[aimeekitty]

I think living separate from your sig other is always a poisonous idea and you'd regret it in the in. And if you go with him, make up your mind that you're going to do it with the right attitude and not blaim him. If you two do it as a team and support each other, you'll be ok. But if you do it with an attitude of "this is his fault", that's poison, too.

you could still work on BC, but you'd have to do it probably differently, like maybe you'd have to take one trip every X amount of time.

anyway, I'm not trying to discount your problems, I'm really sorry you're going through all of that, I'm just hoping that you'll choose to keep your relationship together. People always thinking living apart will be fine, but it's really difficult, and it's not the same as someone being in the army or something.

Have you ever thought of looking into different event planning jobs? Like wedding planners and such...? My cousin does that.

Good luck

[blasphemina]

We love each other so so much. We've been together 7.5 years and are very solid. We have an incredibly strong relationship with hugely good communication so I don't worry about our relationship. It's that I won't get to see him much for two years. His last job had him working for 50+ hours a week so we didn't see each other much during those few months.

At this point it's putting off children, how will I support myself by myself doing what I do, when will be car vehicles to be able to see each other more, shitty 3 hour drive to do so and not seeing his cute face.

And as far as event planning, I don't know where I'd start for money making event planning jobs. Do you have any suggestions?

Thanks Aimee <3

[randomisgemini]

well damn! i was all ready to make suggestions and ask questions, but it seems i've been beaten to the punch. i can only offer hugs and ask whether the difficulty of finding a place where you are overrides the misery of living in a town like that. i know i tend to prefer a good environment because it can affect so many things psychologically, which affects sooo many things. where does your mom live? you said you borrowed her car, maybe you can live nearer to her?

[gienahclarette]

That's a terrible decision to have to make. If it helps any, I'm in a long distance relationship that's rather similar to what your situation will be if you make that choice. My boyfriend lives 4 hours away from me and works full time, and I'm a full time student. At one point, he was working full time and going to school part time. It was a mess for both of us. But, if you're careful, you can make one visit a month with that distance. It sucks, and it's not enough. But, it's so much better than just breaks

[__gilded_lace]

All of these people have already offered all of the advice that I had to give. As a fan and admirer of yours, the only thing that I can offer to do in turn is be supportive!