why I am sexest

[blakeshell]

I used to be feminist but whenever I repeated feminist dogma to a woman, she called me sexest. Now I think for myself. After all, what makes me sexist is my penis, not my attitude. All my lovers have been intelligen independant women, but still I chose my partners on sexist criteria because I want to find them attractive

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[evilbarbastelle]

I always have very mixed views on the whole concept of feminism. I think that the man or woman should be perfectly in their rights and freedoms to stay at home and look after a baby as long as they are doing it because they want too and not because they think they should because of their gender. I hate the idea of a woman telling me I couldn't do that (should i be insane enough to have children) because I'm being controlled by men. Isn't that an insult to my intelligence? And isn't that a (theoretical) group of woman trying to control me with what basis for controlling me other than my gender?

Anyways if I had a boyfriend who was vapid but gorgeous no one would ask questions. If I had a boyfriend who isn't stereotypically gorgeous people would say I'm fucking him for money (like they have with my current man) There IS NO WINNING!!! Best to just get on with it and tell them all to fuck off :)

[evilbarbastelle]

P.s. Though I have forgiven you for the particular incident that upset me, I can understand why people might think that. You do things which you may, in all honesty, think are harmless. The problem is that others don't realize that you don't have a clue that you've done something offensive/rude and therefore do not tell you. I've come to view articulating my concerns (over the last while) as a form of social responsibility which helps others understand why people around them become upset even if I think the person I'm talking too might just decide that I am 'getting emotional' (providing I'm in a safe place) as sometimes people really do surprise you.

Sorry for the essays :P I really don't mean to lecture. I just like talking about such subjects :)

[blakeshell]

I think we are all like that. Sometimes I say things that I know will annoy people but I do not care. William Blake said 'alwayse speak your mind and the base man will avoid you.' I have started to think that it is not alwayse good to be yourself. This is espically true in teaching.
Anyway, I am sorry you are still having trouble getting over the bum grabbing incident. Sometimes you think that because you get along with a person they agree with you on everything. I enjoy being excentric and brassy but sometimes it backfires.

[evilbarbastelle]

I just told you I had forgiven you. I'm not a Christian. I do not forgive someone I still have issues with (like that's even possible)

I have to edit myself at work anyways.

I never even considered that a man would think that touching a womans bottom was eccentric (having allways thought of eccentricity as a little oddness in personality rather than a measure for kinds of physical contact) Same as with builders - it never occurred to me that they thought yelling something at a women in the street was supposed to be a compliment.

But...still on a very base level it is a sexist act as you wouldn't do it to a man. You know it's a sex based act...so why would it be ok to do it to a woman when your not dating or screwing them, unless you have a verbal understanding with the said woman that means that it's ok?

Right now I'm using this subject to get my mind off something much worse. Please read it in a calm tone of voice as, like i said, I am over it but just like articulating my thoughts.

[blakeshell]

I would not have done that to a man? And how do you know that?