Gains and losses

[blackorchid1]

For the moment, the relationships I had on the go aside from the one with Pie are on hold.

persephoneplace is dealing with a number of issues at her end of things and this isn't a good time to nurture a relationship with me. It was my suggestion that she concentrate on dealing with those things now and we can come back to it later. This takes some of the

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[50_ft_queenie]

Oh darn. I'm sorry to hear that. I know how excited you were about both those relationships.

*hug*

[crystal_diva]

Yeah, hon...you gotta do what's best for you.

There's no point in being in relationships that might be awesome sometime real soon, but that for now could be unsuccessful at best and destructive at worst.

Besides, this way they might still come together later. Although I can't speak for the gentleman, the lady in question is a fabulous lady, and I am sure you two could have a great relationship when the time is right.

*hugs*

[falcngrl]

I understand the first more than the second.

There are always going to be work/life/other stresses that will distract focus from a relationship (and cause them to change as lordzowy indicated).

For dukesy and I, these have always been present. First distance, then school, then commuting, then house selling, accident, moving, school again etc etc etc.

It's taken close to 2 years where we are at a point that we can deal fully with the distractions.

What it has meant for me is that while I may have my own priorities for the relationship and what it means for him to be collared to me, I have often had to supress those in order to deal with his needs. It didn't mean the relationship ended, but rather that the focus became "looking for work" or "dealing with school" etc.

my two cents

Tanya

[not_matt]

Relationships, as we talked about, are just that, and always will be. Your friends and loved ones will never leave you, and if or when these people return to you the relationship will be even more beautiful than it was before.