Compliments!

[black_samvara]

Are technically expressions of praise, congratulations or encouragement and I'm all for developing the ability to respond to genuine offers with grace. It can however be a bit rough when you're being complimented for things you don't want to be complimented on because it puts you in the difficult position of kind of wanting to produce a gracious

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[frogd]

I'm (mostly) really uncomfortable with receiving compliments, but I'd prefer to be complimented on something I've done/have control over.

[grouchiegrrl]

ha snap! I am having some weird compliment stuff going on at the moment too!

[fred_mouse]

hmm, not sure about compliments to self - I get uncomfortable. But the things I value are presumably the ones that I tend compliment my kids on - "that was helpful/responsible/co-operative"; 'you must have worked hard to make/get that'. note though that I also compliment them on their looks, but some of that is complementing their competence - 'your hair looks really nice today' has the implicit 'you brushed it! without being asked! and presumably looked in the mirror at the same time