Manic Panic: Stalkers, Drunks

[bipolartist]

X-posted to my private journal

Comments

[tishalook]

Regardless of his intentions, this guy doesn't seem like a good person to have in your life. He's already disrupting your life and your sleep so my advice is to cut him loose. I wouldn't even bother explaining it to him - just stop taking his calls. If he continues to harass you, call the police.

I just recently ended a 4 year friendship with my best friend Lisa because she chose a life of chaos and drama (she started hanging out with crackheads and getting high every night). I'm also a passive person and I've worked hard to achieve peace and stability in my life. Lisa simply doesn't have any place here anymore so I had to let her go.

Good luck with this situation. I know it's not easy but just keep reminding yourself how much calmer you'll feel once he's gone. *hugs*

kind words...

[bipolartist]

Thank you so much for your kind words! It's true, I keep thinking "just blow this dude off..." It took me 2 weeks to call him in the first place and I told him I'm really bad at getting back to people, so I think I'll stick with my original plan and just not answer his calls or answer the door if he stops by... as scared, but I'll get over it with time :-)

Re: kind words...

[tishalook]

You're welcome. =) I think you're making the right decision.

[dangerduckie21]

I vote for blow him off. He'll get the hint soon enough...and if not, call the cops & file a restraining order if he's bothering you at home or work. Talking to him at all just reinforces the relationship in his mind, and telling him any more details about yourself than whatever he already knows is an even worse idea.

thanks

[bipolartist]

Thanks for your reply... any advice helps me feel better at this point! That's a very good point that any communication just reinforces this non-existent relationship in his mind. I just pray that he gets the hint and leaves me alone completely!