Comments | bigdoug: What I “Should” Care About, But Don’t

bigdoug

What I “Should” Care About, But Don’t

Nov 13, 2009 15:37

I like this. Instead of one LJ Idol topic that I have to write about, they give me like 6 of them. Makes it so much easier, and in a way harder, because now I have to pick and choose between them (in this case, I was kinda torn between two of them). But in the end this one won out, because it's slightly easier, I'm busy as usual, and I have until ( Read more... )

grandfather, death, lj idol

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nikki_kp November 13 2009, 21:38:30 UTC

*snugs*

shadowwolf13 November 13 2009, 21:50:06 UTC

Thank you for sharing.

richaarde November 14 2009, 01:32:53 UTC

Maybe you weren't close enough to your grandfather to be really affected by his passing. Don't feel too bad if you aren't really feeling it. You probably wouldn't be as disconnected had it been your mother or one of your friends.

Of the four funerals in the past 15 years that I've been to, that were of people I knew, I only really grieved at one of them. (I mean really, am I supposed to grieve for my mom's stupid aunt that nobody liked?)

comedychick November 14 2009, 02:43:41 UTC

My Mum died from pancreatic cancer six weeks after she was diagnosed, and doctors gave her 3-6 months. She was 50.

I don't think there's a right or wrong way to react to these things. There are things I wish I had thought to do when my mum was sick, but didn't. I looked after her and did what I had to do because no one else was really there to do that for her, and my sister refused to accept my mum was dying. She held a lot back for everyone else, but I could see more of what she was going through than anyone else due to the position I was in. After her death I had wished I'd been more positive about recovery, or hadn't been so right. It was still a shock that she died as quickly as she did, and I blamed the chemo. But I was there for her when she needed me, and so I know she knew I loved her, even if I wasn't reacting how people think one should react in these situations.

rejeneration November 14 2009, 17:32:41 UTC

When I lost my grandfather I was a complete and utter mess, but in truth, I think we all have different ways of grieving, you know? I hope you find the one that lets you feel completely healed once it's through.