Yeah, I am fat. What I'm working at is to stop seeing it as a negative thing. My health is fine, so that excuse doesn't work.
But you raise a valid point where it comes to attraction. Due to social conditioning, most people are not attracted to fat people. I know one of the FA blogs I read wrote an article about that, but I can't quite find it. Essentially, it's about making an effort: try to see the beauty in people, try to see outside what has been taught to you. It's not just about seeing 'inner beauty'; it's about overcoming the social conditioning, to steer your mind away from the paths that have been hammered into it.
For me attraction has a lot of factors. I actually tend to like overweight guys more, and I think skinny guys aren't attractive. I don't mind body hair either way. Sometimes attraction is in the smallest things, like eyes or smile.
What will happen if I were to fall in love with a lady that was considered overweight? I have no idea. Maybe I would become a
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The only people I've ever heard that made snide comments about big women were stupid football-jock types.
And anyway, body shape is a sex characteristic, but it's hardly the only one. Once you talk to someone and go out a few times, and it becomes close and romantic, the body shape really doesn't matter.
Though I'm not too terribly excited about people in general, I do think it's unfair. I really do think the media grabs the most ignorant, or the most...well let's just say uneducated. It does make everyone look bad, and it's not because of who they're voting for, but why. Same can be said for more than half the voters of Obama. We do have a plague of idiocy that ravages this nation, but it does take other forms in the rest of the world.
Ours is just easier to look at and distracts people from looking inside on their own.
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Yeah, I am fat. What I'm working at is to stop seeing it as a negative thing. My health is fine, so that excuse doesn't work.
But you raise a valid point where it comes to attraction. Due to social conditioning, most people are not attracted to fat people. I know one of the FA blogs I read wrote an article about that, but I can't quite find it. Essentially, it's about making an effort: try to see the beauty in people, try to see outside what has been taught to you. It's not just about seeing 'inner beauty'; it's about overcoming the social conditioning, to steer your mind away from the paths that have been hammered into it.
For me attraction has a lot of factors. I actually tend to like overweight guys more, and I think skinny guys aren't attractive. I don't mind body hair either way. Sometimes attraction is in the smallest things, like eyes or smile.
What will happen if I were to fall in love with a lady that was considered overweight? I have no idea. Maybe I would become a ( ... )
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And anyway, body shape is a sex characteristic, but it's hardly the only one. Once you talk to someone and go out a few times, and it becomes close and romantic, the body shape really doesn't matter.
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Though I'm not too terribly excited about people in general, I do think it's unfair. I really do think the media grabs the most ignorant, or the most...well let's just say uneducated. It does make everyone look bad, and it's not because of who they're voting for, but why. Same can be said for more than half the voters of Obama. We do have a plague of idiocy that ravages this nation, but it does take other forms in the rest of the world.
Ours is just easier to look at and distracts people from looking inside on their own.
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