Comments | benes_hacha: The "L" Word

benes_hacha

The "L" Word

Jan 22, 2006 13:18

So I was thinking this morning, as I woke up at 5:30 with a sugar low, about the L word. I think you know the one I mean. More specifically, how this relates to my current relationship ( Read more... )

love, cassie

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the L word anonymous January 22 2006, 20:02:53 UTC

when you think of them, and automatically smile. When her concerns are more important than yours...i.e. she HATES when the toilet seat stays up, but you find it more convenient to just leave it up, but you don't because it irritates her. When you stop swearing, not because you care, but because she doesn't like it, or just in respect for her. When you can't stand to be away from her. if you had something to do, but she needs you to hold her hand and comfort her, you rearrange your schedule to be there for her, even though you think she is being silly for worrying about it. especially if you think she is being silly. When something good, or bad, happens to you, and she is the person you want to share it with.

now, the return is a good indication...she feels all these things for you, and also trys to make you happy. you compromise a lot. no one rules all the time.

love, mom
(ps, put the seat down)

Re: the L word benes_hacha January 22 2006, 22:18:09 UTC

*wink* of course!

Re: the L word benes_hacha January 22 2006, 22:20:45 UTC

yeah like...I remember vaguely that I think one of the 12 (scott maybe?) had a really good definition for it but I can't quite recall it...

something about the other person's needs and desires being more important to you than your own.

I dunno. Perhaps you recall the talk I am referring to?

regoarrarr January 22 2006, 21:41:37 UTC

Why do you like the Seahawks?

You love her... anonymous January 31 2006, 01:17:02 UTC

When your head (not heart) is ready to make a committment. Don't bore me (or your girl) with talk of *feelings* sans any tangible reality. Love is a verb - it's a promise to act a certain way no matter how you feel. If your brain has a few reservations, leave the L-word out of your conversations. :)

~Eve

Re: You love her... benes_hacha January 31 2006, 03:20:47 UTC

Well...I have feelings...but I've never really subscribed to the 'guy of the 90s, talk about your feelings' mentality :-p.

And I'm a guy of few words (when I'm not writing prose, that is, *wink wink*) so I like to make them count when I use them.

Re: You love her... anonymous January 31 2006, 04:03:25 UTC

I can totally respect that - I still can't grasp the concept of a "real" man blathering on about his feelings. Men ACT. :)

Re: You love her... benes_hacha January 31 2006, 04:13:25 UTC

haha, ACT! how silly. I am sooo nonconfrontational, and definitely a thinker, not a doer. I prefer to sit tight, analyse and plan my response to any number of possible contingencies, and then implement the appropriate plan once one of those contingencies happens. very, very passive.

Must confess, not sure quite what you're saying -- I may be blathering about my feelings, but it's on a blog which is ENTIRELY different from behaving that way offline. Very empowering, the internet. I can talk at length about things I would never say offline... :-)