Marriage!

[belovedmonster]

The more people talk to me about marriage and try to argue for it the more I am convinced it is a terrible idea! It is like their arguments are just re-enforcing my own beliefs, and it is not that I feel I am being closed off to their arguments because I have never been 100% against marriage and would definitely still consider it (so don't worry

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[tranquilite]

im doing it because I want to experience my own family and I want to experience that family with some I love. I do agree it is probably just something we do because everyone does..

Also, to me it sounds kind of like a Human Tradition to get married...it is the way we celebrate our commitment and love we can feel for someone else. So...I guess it could be like our pizza nights with mum...its just tradition, we have to do it because it is fun and it rocks and it makes everyone happy and have bonding time...

I dunno really.

But I respect your opinion and I definitely plan on rocking it.

Peace,

[belovedmonster]

Why can't you have your own family and create that family with someone you love without marriage?

[tranquilite]

you can by all means, but it comes back to tradition. The base of a family is a good and strong marriage/commitment with your significant other, upon that you create a solid family; anyway it just is a tradition and like I said it is like PIzza night, we do it because its fun, cool, bonding, and a damn good time as well a (suppose to be) once in a life time opportunity.

peace

[whetherwoman]

Yeah. I mean, instead of marriage we could have a socially accepted public commitment to be a family, but since it's the same thing, might as well use the word marriage.

[jekissa]

So true!

Rather, I agree, in so many words.

Marriage!

[groovemonkey]

Mawwage is what bwings us togethuh.......today.

Re: Marriage!

[wandering_fool]

Mawwage...that bwissful awwangement...

Frankly Zen, I can understand your feelings, given we've talked about it before, but seriously, why bag on people who DO want to get married?

I don't bag on your for not wanting to...

Re: Marriage!

[belovedmonster]

I would like to see one example of me bagging on people who want to get married.

Re: Marriage!

[wandering_fool]

By not accepting people's replys, only be questioning them further about why they couldn't do what they're doing inside of the bounds of marriage without getting married. If I misinterpreted what you were doing. by all means, my apologies

[poeticajasmine]

I'm confused about why people get married too...at the exact same time as admitting that I'm happily married. I don't have any amazing reasons for it or anything like that. I love him and it felt right to me at the time. It was one of the many ways that I felt most comfortable proving/showing/experiencing my love for him. There is also the tattoo that means it. And buying a house together. And laying in bed watching bad television. And holding hands in public and dozens of other ways. Thats whats neat about it for me. It felt right for me, it felt right to him, and it doesn't feel right to other people.... its pretty awesome that people can do whatever they want to best experience their love for someone else. This was just my own way. And luckily enough, next month we will have been married for five years and I think thats pretty fucking awesome. :) Also, I'd be glad to answer any questions you have about marriage without getting offended or anything else. email me.

[aredridel]

I'm thinking along the same lines. Nearly every time a friend of mine announces a marriage, I sigh, want to throw up my hands and ask "but why?!"

It' partly that I think like someone who's polyamorous, and don't really think in terms of single partners.

But part of it seems so tied to the idea of a nuclear family lately, and I don't like that.