Comments | belenen: recently: busy at work, Topaz moving, ex-friend attack, back pain, car broke, close friend suffering

belenen

recently: busy at work, Topaz moving, ex-friend attack, back pain, car broke, close friend suffering

Sep 13, 2018 10:47

icon: "pain (a digital painting of a thin naked person crouching with arms tight to their chest and hands over their face, and long hair spilling over their face and down their body, balancing on the balls of their feet on top of a precariously thin column of rock)"Sorry I have been absent lately. It has been busy season at work, plus Topaz is ( Read more... )

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kehleyr September 13 2018, 15:17:54 UTC

ah man... that so-called friend that emailed you that shit and then talked shit about you online... just wow. I honestly don't know what to say... I just want to say I totally understand you in feeling overwhelmed with the long ass emails... and then giving you shit when you didn't have the energy to respond to it.
*offers hugs*

belenen September 30 2018, 18:53:27 UTC

*hugs back* thanks for the empathy!

maju01 September 13 2018, 16:10:07 UTC

That "friend" who sent you the emails is definitely not a friend. You don't deserve that kind of treatment.

belenen September 30 2018, 18:56:28 UTC

thank you for the validation!

daphnep September 13 2018, 16:28:19 UTC

I am really, really glad you have friends who support you and defend you through this. I have been in that situation and know how completely deflating such a betrayal can be.
Clearly you already know this, but I’ll write it anyway just to add my voice to the chorus that helps drown out doubt: that person’s issues are their own, they have nothing to do with you, the problems preceed you and extend beyond you, and you don’t owe this person a response of any kind. What an incredible lot of energy they are trying to demand from you!

belenen September 30 2018, 18:58:27 UTC

thank you! it was indeed a lot of energy, and I have a hard time refusing people in need even when they are being shitty to me.

ragnarok_08 September 13 2018, 17:29:32 UTC

I'm so sorry that happened to you :(

That person was not your friend - friends would never do such a thing.

I'm so glad that you have a support system, who really are your friends *^^*

belenen September 30 2018, 18:59:18 UTC

I feel so lucky to have my friends! thank you for the empathy.

webgirluk September 16 2018, 15:22:05 UTC

I'm sorry to hear that you've experienced all this stress in one go and hope your back keeps making a positive recovery. Glad it helped to work from home for a few days.

I am hopeless with replying to emails/messages as well sometimes and I think it's reasonable that you should not have to reply to all of the massive mail content and you were honest and explained your position. Sorry your once friend reacted in a negative way and that is awful she involved social media and your mutual friends. So glad they were supportive towards you.

belenen September 30 2018, 19:05:10 UTC

thank you! My back is doing much better but now I am so scared of injuring it that I have yet to go back to my workouts *frown* hope I can overcome that tomorrow.

I'm so grateful for the support from those friends, too.