why it took me 3 decades to claim my identity as queer, non-binary, and demisexual

[belenen]

icon: "queer (the logo for Transcending Boundaries Conference overlaid with the words "genderfree, queer, + trans / never a 1 or 0")"
do you consider your own sexuality fluid? If so, how has it changed over time? Regardless, how did you come to discover and embrace your sexual identity(ies)?I think my sexuality has always been the same, but my

Comments

[callmebee]

This post came at a most timely moment in my own life. As you know I've been doing a lot of soul searching lately, and part of that has been about sexual and gender identity

[bunnicula38]

It baffles me that people would question anyone's sexual identity or how they identify themselves in general. I think people who ask are trying to pigeon-hole that person because they may not be able to figure out their sexuality through conversation or nuance and curiosity gets the best of them (or the need to judge). Frankly, nobody should be asking that question. It's one of those questions that there's no need for them to know unless the other person chooses to discuss it.

Besides, in my opinion, sexuality is very fluid. Most of us live enough years on this planet to recognize that our sexual leanings do not remain static. Oh, we might pretend they do because we want to fit into a "polite" society. But I always assume that all of us are more fluid and open to to change in this regard but we don't feel comfortable discussing it. And that's okay-but it would do a good person good to just accept that their feelings about sex will change on occasion and sometimes come full circle.