time w Evelyn & Quinn: clearing tension, overcoming previous miscommunications, setting intentions

[belenen]

icon: "intrigued (a photo of a snow leopard with ears flattened, peering intently over a log)"Back in early November Evelyn had told me that the reason they couldn't be with me was that it was too stressful for Quinn, and that Quinn felt somehow inferior to me and didn't want Evelyn to be with me. Evelyn has since told me that they told Quinn that

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[stormdog]

It sounds like your interactions with Quinn last night were so very positive; I'm so happy for you! I've had so many negative experiences related to this kind of interaction within poly contexts; I can understand your pre-conversation anxiety very well. Not to mention the worry that you'll be too anxious to take the opportunity to talk, and then end up having gotten terribly stressed for nothing. I've dealt with a lot of that.

I'm so glad it's going well!

[ragnarok_08]

That's great that your interactions with Quinn have been so positive ♥

[thatunicornfizz]

I'm glad to hear that your interactions with Quinn were so positive. It sounds like it could be a really good and nourishing connection for you both.

[sinnamongirl]

Oh, I'm so glad you had a good connection with Quinn! No matter what happens in the future (which I myself am optimistic about on your behalf), it sounds like you had good relief and understanding and better communication. Yay!

[miss_ljv]

Fascinating! I'm glad you were able to clear the air and that Quinn felt safe enough to bring up the faux-pas and get a resolution!

I know what you mean about "meatspace/auditory supremacy"... in person I suck at articulating and I do so much better given time to process and formulate a response, especially to something that requires careful thought. It's weird, because I'm a fast processor in general (I connect things and reach conclusions faster and more easily than most), but when it comes to emotional or personal issues, I need A LOT of time to work through it. That's why I love journaling and why texting has been such an awesome invention. Not to mention I HATE feeling vulnerable and people can't stand when I can't look them in the eye, and even if they say they understand that I CAN'T they still treat me like I WON'T.