me on LJ vs me on FB: beginning work to correct perceptions of me by being more open on FB

[belenen]

icon: "revolutionary (a gif flipping through four of my nude self-portraits in dancy poses lit by natural light, showing my soft rounded body)"I had a conversation with Cass the other day about the way people perceive me through facebook. She told me that I come across as very judgemental and hasty to dismiss people as unworthy; that she in the

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[sabraka]

That's really brave forwarding your personal journaling to FB with the possibility of no feedback. I remember trying that once a long time ago, & had a similar experience of people not reacting, possibly not even seeing my posts. I know FB is all about everyone sharing everything with everybody, but rarely is anyone very "soul-baring" though. It probably is that it's just too public there, with much too much else always going on. It wasn't long before I gave it up. Funny how we can be defined, or perceived differently, depending on differences in social media platforms.

[belenen]

Thank you for the affirmation on that -- it certainly feels brave and vulnerable to share the personal stuff there.

[belenen]

I don't consider myself quick to dismiss people -- though I am quick to dismiss arguments that I have already heard over and over, and people often attach identity to their ideas I guess, so they feel dismissed? I dunno. I don't feel dismissed if people dismiss my argument. I feel baffled by neurotypical perceptions more than any other aspect of 'normality.'

[re_vised]

I feel LJ is a much better place to delve deeper into self-exploration or other personal/friend issues. Facebook seems to impersonal to me most of the time. I'm happy to use it and connect with friends or family I might not otherwise have a lot of contact with, but that's about it. Unfortunately, at the moment my Facebook feed is inundated with political posts and I have taken a step away to keep my wits about me.

[belenen]

I totally agree that LJ is a better place in pretty much every way except for organizing events! I can't imagine what FB would even be like if people were really open and honest there. I do have a few friends who use FB like I use LJ though, which is interesting.

[re_vised]

Hmm. Using FB like LJ would be very hard for me. I suppose if you had a very selective friends list in FB it might work well. Though, with so much of FB searchable I wouldn't be comfortable!