learning from dating Kylei, 5 years later: tools for managing my anxiety w terrible memory & ADD

[belenen]

icon: "ADD-PI (two electromicroscope photos of crystallized acetylcholine, overlaid & warped in several ways)"As my ADD has gotten more unmanageable and my memory has gotten worse at the same time my anxiety has risen to disorder levels, I find that I am needing a lot of the same tools I helped Kylei create when we were together (or tools I thought

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[seifaiden]

You talk about things using terms like "feeling valued" and "unvalued", which are unfamiliar to me. I know these words and their meaning, but I have never thought of them in the context of human relationships re: myself, to be valued or unvalued. I'm not sure what that implies about me.

What does it mean for someone to be immersed in you-ness? That sounds kind of intense.

Your writings always interest me, but your thoughts are still mysterious and foreign to me. On the upside, it keeps me on my toes, mentally.

I hope my tone doesn't transmit here incorrectly, I worry that I sound confrontational (when that isn't the intent).

[belenen]

Hm. I guess I used 'valued' to differentiate from 'loved' -- people can have loving feelings toward someone while (for instance) wishing they were different in significant ways, whereas for me valuing someone means knowing them, knowing what they offer and respecting and appreciating that as it is. It doesn't even have to contain affectionate feeling; I want to be understood and I want people to be glad that the individual aspects of me exist

[belenen]

Yes, please do! It is a relief to be able to remind myself in this way and I hope that it is a relief for you too <3