questions: eavesdropping on ppl talking about me / gift I've wanted but not gotten

[belenen]

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If you could listen to an hour's audio footage of people talking about you behind your back. Would you listen to it or not listen to it? Why or why not? (from hereMy instinctive response is yes. If they were strangers I would want to find

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[mac_arthur_park]

When I was younger, I stumbled upon the "Walden Commune"-era Doonesbury strips. That's been the gold standard for me ever since.

While I appreciate the spousebeast and me having our own space (which was critical in the early stages of our move from a seven year LDR to cohabitation), I miss the days when I'd come down here and spend a month or more with Mark and the bois. There's an energy to communal living that I crave.

[belenen]

I know what you mean about that energy. I like getting little tastes of it by having people come and stay for a week at a time *smiles*

[webgirluk]

I have almost asked the first question myself online and it's something I too have thought about. I'm not sure if I'd choose to listen to it as if I heard something said about me that was totally unfair to my view then I'd want to put it right, which could be stressful. However, I don't have much of a problem with hearing negative things about me that are accurate and fair. Also, I think in choosing to hear it would have a negative impact on some of my relationships.

I share a similar fantasy you describe about a house share with a close group of people, where you have your own areas and space when you need it. I value alone time. A lot. However, crave meaningful connection as well.

[belenen]

I like that you don't have much problem with being told negative things about you if the person is accurate and fair. I feel similarly -- it scares me to hear them, but ultimately I want to know!

[soundofsunlight]

I wish I lived closer to the people I love, and could spend lots of time together in person. Having a house together where everyone had their own space would be wonderful, but I'd settle for just being close enough to visit often.

[belenen]

Oh, I feel you. My friend Hannah, who is one of the most important people in my life, lives in Europe *sadface* I hope that you gain nearer connections or that the situation changes so that visits are easier!

[soundofsunlight]

Oh, that is very far! Thank you for the good wishes, I hope so too, and the same to you.