None of the options really fit, but I picked what was closest...
I mostly let other people add me first.
But when I do add somebody else, it varies. Sometimes I have to add someone I barely know because we end up admins of a group together. Sometimes I add someone I've interacted with on and/or off of FB regularly for days or even months. It depends on the specific person involved.
I use a pseudonym so only real life people I invite could find me, and I mostly friend people I have known for a while on other social sites like LJ and Twitter, so as not to lose them completely.
I don't accept friends requests from complete strangers, or if by chance it is a co-worker or someone I don't want to let in on my online activities. Luckily this is rare, because I don't advertise my online self, I don't feel the need to.
I don't like Facebook, I don't feel comfortable there to be open (I feel more so on Twitter even though my account is public), and I hate it when people grow too lazy to blog and only appear there. Too many do it these days.
I'll generally add anyone on facebook "from online" at least. So for me anyone I loosely know from here or forums and so on I would be okay with, unless I happen to be uncomfortable with them for some reason. I think for me I tend to change thoughts based more on what area of life the person comes from. For example, I don't really have work people or people from school on Facebook and my criteria would go up in those areas of life, I think.
I tend to see my journal as more private than Facebook but I think many others see it in reverse, maybe due to the various branches of life added. I guess people can be anyone on LJ but fb a real identity.
None of these exactly match me so I've clicked one option that seemed to suit what I've been doing recently.
Often I do wait for people to add me. I feel a little thrill if someone I have been considering adding adds me first. I'll add people first if I feel I've waited 'long enough' [this varies] and I feel adding them might add to my social circle, if I'm curious and would like to talk with them more. Although if I'm supercurious about them I sometimes hold back, in case adding them lets them know, because I am shy about letting people know I'm curious about them!
Recently though, after being in Dublin for the poetry I added a few poets I'd only had brief chats with, in the hope that they would remember me in a sort of attempt to foster networking. Some didn't accept, which is fair enough! So I clicked 'after I have talked with them briefly' as my answer.
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I mostly let other people add me first.
But when I do add somebody else, it varies. Sometimes I have to add someone I barely know because we end up admins of a group together. Sometimes I add someone I've interacted with on and/or off of FB regularly for days or even months. It depends on the specific person involved.
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I don't accept friends requests from complete strangers, or if by chance it is a co-worker or someone I don't want to let in on my online activities. Luckily this is rare, because I don't advertise my online self, I don't feel the need to.
I don't like Facebook, I don't feel comfortable there to be open (I feel more so on Twitter even though my account is public), and I hate it when people grow too lazy to blog and only appear there. Too many do it these days.
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I tend to see my journal as more private than Facebook but I think many others see it in reverse, maybe due to the various branches of life added. I guess people can be anyone on LJ but fb a real identity.
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Often I do wait for people to add me. I feel a little thrill if someone I have been considering adding adds me first. I'll add people first if I feel I've waited 'long enough' [this varies] and I feel adding them might add to my social circle, if I'm curious and would like to talk with them more. Although if I'm supercurious about them I sometimes hold back, in case adding them lets them know, because I am shy about letting people know I'm curious about them!
Recently though, after being in Dublin for the poetry I added a few poets I'd only had brief chats with, in the hope that they would remember me in a sort of attempt to foster networking. Some didn't accept, which is fair enough! So I clicked 'after I have talked with them briefly' as my answer.
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