what nourishes me in friendship: self-care/growth/awareness, shared passion/enthusiasm, creating...

[belenen]

icon: "plant magic (photo I took of a tree blossom cluster, still in buds)"
A friend asked me what nourishes me in friendship, and after thinking on it, this is how friends can nourish me:

1. self-care/growth/awareness. This is far and away the most important, the thing that nourishes me most in spending time with someone (whether virtually or in

Comments

[raidingparty]

I have to admit the text is mostly 1-directional at the moment, but after reading your #1 I have to tell you how much I appreciate reading your life and philosophy and process.

[lilywolfsolomon]

So, big realizations through this! I didn't realize but how I feel seen is also how I feel nourished. And it's also what I look for in a good friend or a romantic relationship. It's the same list, for all three, and it clarifies so much. Since I made the list I'm so much more aware of what nourishes me. Like, I just had a conversation with Johan that immediately made me feel happy and nourished with just a few words. Because I wrote the list I was aware of the feeling of nourishment and I updated my list. Having this list feels like kind of a powerful tool, that I feel like I can use in certain ways to improve friendships and such. It's great

[webgirluk]

I love reading posts about what others seek in their friendships and what nourishes them, it's really fascinating. I wrote a similar list recently in the form of spider diagrams of the exact list of what I feel connects me to another person in a friendship as I wanted to put it into words far better than I had when I would previously compile such lists. I will probably post once I sorted it in detail but there are similarities with yours. Mine is about 8 different qualities with sub branches off each one

[belenen]

thanks for sharing! yeah I feel you on a lot of this. Especially the trust through not-lying, that one is vital for me.

[call_me_katya]

I'm thinking about this from two points of view

[belenen]

aww, it makes me feel loved that you are reflecting on that *beams*

I'm very curious about what nourishes you in friendship! do you think you might write on it?

[call_me_katya]

I think I will write on it! I think it's something I need to explore in more detail, as one or two friendships have left me a little dissatisfied recently and I need to explore why. Also, I love writing about things like this anyway and get my thoughts more clear.

It'll take a while, as I'm working a lot until the 10th, but I will do it :)

*edited as I originally posted this in the wrong place*

[meri_sielu]

All wonderful and vital things. I agree with so much here. <3