Comments | belenen: overwhelmed / my friendship needs and dealbreakers

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overwhelmed / my friendship needs and dealbreakers

Mar 01, 2015 23:52

icon: "overwhelmed (the character Keenan from "Playing By Heart," with hands over their face covering their eyes and head tilted back)"Sorry for my absence; things have been wild but they should be settling now for at least a few weeks ( Read more... )

care and feeding of belenens, the essential belenen collection, stress overwhelm, kwt, honesty, friendship, turning points

Comments 5

lilywolfsolomon March 3 2015, 14:08:57 UTC

Two weeks is a long time! Sounds so draining, hope you get through this and find peace with it soon. <3

twofootsmall March 3 2015, 21:46:21 UTC

I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you're as ok as you can be right now.

Your list of needs strikes a chord with me - I do admire your ability to identify and express these things.

zimtkeks March 9 2015, 22:12:17 UTC

I agree with you that all these things are dealbreakers. I'd add stupidity and hate (as in general negativity towards oneself or others, racism, sexism, etc.).

Sorry about the double post, I don't know what's up with LJ ...

I also wanted to say I'm sorry you're going through this, it sounds rough.

jaime_blue March 15 2015, 21:30:01 UTC

I'm so sorry to hear you're losing a friendship this way. *offers a few shrivelled, musty empathy cookies from laying exhausted facedown on the ground*

Additionally, please let me know if I exhibit any of those behaviors because they are NOT something I want in myself and would really appreciate honesty if you see them, and if you're up to it, discussion on how to improve myself.

lilywolfsolomon March 19 2015, 06:56:10 UTC

I don't know if I have many absolute dealbreakers as I guess I'm always willing to listen and hear out what's going on with a person, and I can't rule out that a situation might come up where someone breaks the deal but are still worth having in my life. But yeah, to the extent that I do have them, these seem really close to my own. I'd put drama making in with manipulative behaviour (though I haven't really made an effort to define drama). I like the destructiveness of other living things. I have a hard time imagining myself getting close to someone who would kill insects, for example. They could be a periphery friend but I don't think that's the sort of person I could get really close to.