Impact play is energy work for me

[belenen]

icon: "powerful (Frazetta's "Sun Goddess": a person with large breasts and belly and thick muscular thighs, standing with arms out and head back, knife in one hand, sabertooth tiger snarling by their side)"(I'm frustrated that I haven't written about my recent life but I haven't the time to do it tonight, so here's a quick thought

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[marchioness]

This is interesting; thank you for sharing. I've only dabbled, with my girlfriend, in the world of impact play, but I think I see what you mean about a "bloom of energy"!

TW: Domestic abuse, self-harm

[slinkslowdown]

I wonder if this might be something that would be... like personal therapy for me. If I ever tried it out.

I always have/had this ridiculous reaction to arguments and verbal fights. Like with my ex. I'd just start begging him to beat me... I felt like the only way I could make things "right" when I fucked up in the relationship was to let him physically attack me.

He'd never do it, though, so I'd start beating myself instead... I still do that sometimes. If I feel I've done something "bad", I'll try to injure myself. I never cut or burn, though. I just punch myself, or slam my head into walls. Especially the latter. I try to knock myself unconscious, but it's never worked...

Re: TW: Domestic abuse, self-harm

[lilywolfsolomon]

I've had those kinds of impulses at times, and though I wasn't kinky at the time, I think it would have helped. The key is to do it from a space where you're actually deeply loving yourself, (or at least deeply loved by another who knows how to take you through it safely). It's definitely something to be really careful with and I would not do without someone who really gets kink and the crucial importance of aftercare and consent and checking in... especially when you're dealing with havingthese impulses outside of play contexts. It's about creating a safe space where you feel safe and loved enough to step back from yourself and notice what goes on inside of you, what's really happening inside of you when these impulses come up. And I think only love can do that. Yeah, it's about getting hurt if you want to and enjoying it, but too often outside of BDSM contexts that impulse is not the best self care. So this is making it about self care. It's about transforming those impulses that are usually about habits of berating ourselves and

[lilywolfsolomon]

Impact play (and all sorts of sensation play from wax to knives) is totally energy work for me. :) It's an incredible way to focus whatever energies/intentions might be present wherever I might choose to focus them. So it can be energy healing or magic or both. Maybe it's easiest to focus the energy near the area of the impact, though if you're able to put your focus on another area (say, your heart) during impact that might produce a different sort of bloom of energy. It's fun to play with

[meri_sielu]

That's a very interesting way of looking at it actually, I had never really thought of it but you are right. A lot of energy does go into that action, sometimes negative, sometimes positive. For my part and in my experience it's often frustration that I let out in parts with love and a desire to combine those two things as a form of communication in energy, does that make sense? I find it hard to explain exactly what I am trying to say through words of any sort but I think, from what I've gathered in this post and your point of view on it, that we're on the same trail of thought.

[raidingparty]

Another place I'll have to look at creating energy intention.

Despite the dominant paradigm, I'm relatively new at this, and surprised by certain things.