meme: ask me anything

[belenen]

from queerbychoice:

Ask me anything, and I will answer as truthfully as I know how. And if you ask me something, and then post this on your journal, I will ask at least one question of you. No promises that I won't touch a nerve though.

Comments

[belenen]

I don't know about top 4, because I need all of these: http://belenen.livejournal.com/528383.html

[call_me_katya]

I'm very interested in some of the things you've mentioned, like the rituals and intimacy practices. Can I ask how you 'learned' these? Did you research them in books, or were self-taught, or taught by others? Are some of them existing practices or invented by you?

Also, it's great that you lead the practices! How did you get up the courage to start them, and confidence to continue them with a growing membership?

[call_me_katya]

[also, I'm using inverted comments around 'learned' not to be offensive, more because I don't know if you did learn, or if you created these things yourself!]

[belenen]

Pretty much everything I do is invented by me. Being poly can teach one a lot about relationships -- I've learned through experience. Here's an explanation of intimacy practices, and kinda the story of their creation: http://belenen.livejournal.com/532220.html Please let me know if you have any questions on that.

I started them with a group of people who at the time were all interconnected with me, and all wanted intimacy. It didn't take much courage because I wasn't doing it alone. I want to write the story of it now, so I'm going to turn this into a post ;-)

[call_me_katya]

In that case, I'm glad I may have inspired a future post! Your description reminds me a lot of games I created between the ages of 8-11. Entirely non-sexual, but my friends and I used to give each other foot rubs and play Hairdresser, sometimes using our long hair to tickle the palm of each other's hands. We had tickle time which then turned into a game I made up where we wrote words with our fingertips on someone's back or arm, and the other person concentrated on the touch to try and 'read' the message. I'm just remembering this now and realising how much touch must have meant to me at the time! We all need it, but there aren't many situations I know of when you can ask for it.

Are your rituals and affirmations created by yourself? Sorry about the questions!

[camilleyun]

I'm not entirely sure how to articulate it but here is the best way I can formulate my two-part question: What process did you use/how did you come to figure out what you like/what you are like and what methods did you employ that has enabled you to have such strong self-acceptance?