without working on the subconscious, 'change' is only cosmetic: change thoughts to change actions!

[belenen]

This is from my perspective as a fairly neurotypical person, and may reflect neurotypical privilege; please understand that I am speaking to/about neurotypical experiences/abilities. How this process might work in brains significantly different from mine, I don't know (if you do, I'd love if you'd share with me

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[justben]

I just finished the book "Why Would Anyone Believe in God?" by Justin Barrett. The book is focused on a somewhat different topic: a cognitive science approach to understanding the formation of religious beliefs. While I find some of his arguments rather problematic, there's a gem in there: Much of the book's initial material gives groundwork (with academic bibliography!) in science's current understanding of how human brain forms beliefs (mostly for neurotypical brains, though he touches very lightly on autism). Though the book is primarily about religious beliefs, I saw some interesting implications for beliefs that form prejudice and support privilege as well. If you can get past the biases and logical fallacies in the book's arguments (I suspect you'll have most of the same problems with it that I did), then you might find the foundational material in first few chapters interesting.

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[belenen]

iiiiiinteresting. Next time I see you I'd love to hear more.

If they gender you, you want to know.

[anonymous]

Interesting statement here in your post: "(This is why I want people to call me by the pronoun that reflects how they see me, rather than the one that reflects how I see myself. If they gender me, I want to know)."

Who is "they?" Because I try to think of you as "James," knowing that you self-describe as genderfree. You also self-identify as trans. I have no idea which physical bits you have.

But if someone asked me to pick a category, I'd say female. Your photos tend to present you as more female than male.

I see genderfree people basically the same way I think of third-party politics in America. There are third parties. They're absolutely valid. But most people find themselves in one of two camps.

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[belenen]

who are you?

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[dputiger]

Sorry! That was me.