dating Arizona again / sexist professor / discussing poly&queer w/ biosib S / bluntness not caution!

[belenen]

It's been ages since I wrote -- partly from busyness and partly because I was so freaking stressed about financial stuff that I could not spend time in reflective mindspace or I'd fixate on it. My financial aid finally came in this week (two and a half weeks into the semester, having no books) so I have a little room to breathe. and so much has

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[musicandmisery]

Throw seeds everywhere, but only water the ones that sprout.

LOVE THIS.

[thiswaste]

That college professor sounds really terrible. I'd definitely try speak to him first. If that doesn't work, report him.

[shadowlily]

Perhaps an email/written note to your professor, or another department member, would open the issue while you're working up your courage? Also if the class has TAs, one might act as an ally or intermediary.

I bet some of your classmates would benefit from your concerns about sexism coming to light. :)

[hands_cupped]

" I learned that I could still find value in relationships that were the emotional equivalent of candy, because it wasn't that or nothing. I can have candy AND food that will actually nourish and satisfy me. I don't think I will ever be super close with S, but I think that ze can be a good way for me to learn communications that I won't otherwise learn, and I think I can help zir learn about people who are different from zir."

Thank you for writing this. I'm at a stage in life where I'm learning and accepting this as well. It's... freeing in a way.

I don't think I could handle being in that sociology class. I would probably end up saying something that would get me in trouble anyway. Ugh. *pissed off now*.

[hands_cupped]

after reading the other comments, I think maybe I would confront the professor, personally, too. not saying you should do that. I would encourage and support you to do what is most empowering to you of course. just thinking about it though, that's sort of what I've done in the past. Though never about such an emotionally charged and painful issue, I don't think.

[hands_cupped]

wow, I can hardly read what I just wrote. hope you could follow that, lol. I'm pretty scatterbrained at the moment.

[sidheblessed]

I would be absolutely incensed if one of my tutors said that! It's not only inaccurate but sexist, unprofessional and irresponsible. I would say something about it. If for no other reason than to know that you did something to fight against this kind of attitude.

When I was in my first year of TAFE/community college, one of my tutors stood out in front of class and stated that bisexuals just wanted to take advantage of the heterosexual privilege, because they could choose a heteronormative relationship if they wanted to. He said a couple of other biphobic things, but those are the words that stuck with me. I stood up to him, in front of everybody. I called him on his prejudice. It didn't change his views but I could sleep at night knowing I didn't let it pass me unaddressed.