I feel like most people live in boxes. And most of the time, even if a person left their pink/blue box, they'd still be in a nerd/jock/stoner box, or a black/white/asian/indian box, or a... you get the idea.
So the problem isn't just gender- it's boxes. I'm sure you know that, but I feel like finding boxless people is a much different quest than finding genderqueer people. Boxless. I like the way that sounds.
I agree, but the problem is that not being pink or blue means that you don't belong to almost ANY box -- because those other 'boxes' exist INSIDE the pink or blue boxes. Not that I want to be boxed, but I want to find others not inside those categories.
The thorn here is that I cannot relate to people in the way most people relate. I don't feel included when people make the "we belong to the same group" comments like "you know how [men, women] are." And if I'm among some group that I might otherwise feel a kinship with (like artists) I still feel very alienated because they make those comments.
Do seek out the LGBT group. I suspect that your pessimism about it is unwarranted. I've never heard of a college LGBT group that didn't have a fair amount of genderqueerness.
Do you think you really have a clear enough understanding of what it's like to have to live out of your car, though, to be able to say that you want that? I know you've mentioned being stressed out by lack of money at times in the past, and that's been while you've still at least had a private bathroom and shower and kitchen and other basic amenities that don't exist for people who are forced to live in their cars. I hope that if you do decide to leave college, you will give these sorts of considerations a lot of thought first.
thanks for the encouragement about the LGBT group <3
Oh, I'm not going to leave college, I'm pretty sure. I'm aware that I don't know how to live like that, and that it's not some rosy world. This are just feelings, desires, not plans.
this is why i value self-education so much higher.. there's no limit and you are your own teacher! i'm sorry for all the headache you had to go through ... i always found it unfair how a teacher (an authority figure) *judges* a paper of yours -- to believe a paper is an A+ or a D- is a matter of one point of view. it makes me kinda sadd =[
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So the problem isn't just gender- it's boxes. I'm sure you know that, but I feel like finding boxless people is a much different quest than finding genderqueer people. Boxless. I like the way that sounds.
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The thorn here is that I cannot relate to people in the way most people relate. I don't feel included when people make the "we belong to the same group" comments like "you know how [men, women] are." And if I'm among some group that I might otherwise feel a kinship with (like artists) I still feel very alienated because they make those comments.
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Do you think you really have a clear enough understanding of what it's like to have to live out of your car, though, to be able to say that you want that? I know you've mentioned being stressed out by lack of money at times in the past, and that's been while you've still at least had a private bathroom and shower and kitchen and other basic amenities that don't exist for people who are forced to live in their cars. I hope that if you do decide to leave college, you will give these sorts of considerations a lot of thought first.
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Oh, I'm not going to leave college, I'm pretty sure. I'm aware that I don't know how to live like that, and that it's not some rosy world. This are just feelings, desires, not plans.
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this is why i value self-education so much higher.. there's no limit and you are your own teacher! i'm sorry for all the headache you had to go through ... i always found it unfair how a teacher (an authority figure) *judges* a paper of yours -- to believe a paper is an A+ or a D- is a matter of one point of view. it makes me kinda sadd =[
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