1) ~headtilt, chin to palm~ So. Have you found any course-of-action that DOES work to help a person hold onto the idea that they're worthy of admiration? I've a small handful of glorious folk in my sphere who flee from "you're glorious" like pepper from soap, and if there's a way I could be or rephrase so that "you're glorious" has a chance to sink in... that'd be glorious, too. ~wry smile~
2) As much as a drag as Viv's "let's keep this friendly" might've been/might be, I've got to say that I admire zir for *actually* *saying* *what* *ze* *felt* instead of letting circumstance sweep zir along. Shows good faith in you and in zirself. Yah, Viv; here's to you. :)
3) I'm learning that keeping the beautiful, truth-showing bits of past relationships near to heart makes present relationships (with self and others) easier/more compassionate. Thank you for sharing some of your shinybits, here.
Actually, I really agree that it shows good strength of character, self-respect and respect for you that Viv told you early on and didn't let herself get swept away, as ladywind said.
Hehe! It's fun following this as you post... Can sense how giddy you get just from the way you type.
Have to agree with the previous comment though, Yay for people who are willing to say outright how they feel and where they want things to stay for the time being. Very much a show of trust. ^_^
I'll try to remember that some people just don't even have a way to hold the idea that someone might admire them, and repeatedly giving them the idea is not going to help them hold on to it. That's REALLY difficult for me because "oh my God/dess you're so amazing" is a thought that is so natural to me that sometimes it pops out of my mouth without me even realizing it.I think this would be a very good thing to keep in mind, well written. For someone like me who has an incredibly low sense of self-worth/self-love, if any at all, you really described how I feel perfectly. It's not just a case of low self-esteem, it's a case where I can't see anybody liking/loving/appreciating me in ANY sort of way, however small. So I get super defensive and say "Oh you're crazy, shut up" or something along those lines. It's such a foreign concept to me, I have no idea how to handle it
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well it may not have been about you directly, but you did come to mind when I was writing that particular paragraph so I'm glad it resonated with you ♥ *hugs*
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2) As much as a drag as Viv's "let's keep this friendly" might've been/might be, I've got to say that I admire zir for *actually* *saying* *what* *ze* *felt* instead of letting circumstance sweep zir along. Shows good faith in you and in zirself. Yah, Viv; here's to you. :)
3) I'm learning that keeping the beautiful, truth-showing bits of past relationships near to heart makes present relationships (with self and others) easier/more compassionate. Thank you for sharing some of your shinybits, here.
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Have to agree with the previous comment though, Yay for people who are willing to say outright how they feel and where they want things to stay for the time being. Very much a show of trust. ^_^
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