I must admit I do try to avoid presumptive language, usually by prefacing with 'have you thought about doing X' or 'I think doing X could help you,' or 'have you ever thought that you might be doing this because of X,' but I do slip up occasionally. I thought bitterlight's reference to role-directing and role-informing was a really interesting one.
If it's something that makes you uncomfortable, even if you logically recognise what's going on; then no wonder you don't like posting about pain sometimes if you're frightened of that reaction. It sounds awful. *hugs*
I think the sky is still sending you such love, with the sun casting long shadows with the rough arms of the trees, and the earth still hugs you closely, closer and closer, drawing you near to zir bosom.
I believe you are earth's child and sky's child. You are a marvelous being of divinity and wild abandonment of pleasure, joy, beauty, and light and love.
Always holding you with such magic it takes my breath away, even as I gently, oh so gently hold the bubble for you.
You are my heart, dear one, with fringe and bells and a beautiful laugh. You lift my heart, you comfort me, and I do believe we're in a place of great transition.
I'm always here for you, sweet dryad. Always holding you as you twirl and spreading a cloak for you to rest on.
*I should specify that third paragraph, in that I don't gather that you're actually offended by advice as a whole, but by this commanding type...I think I felt that was implied, but it doesn't seem so much on the reread. I think I just hear those "commands" so often that I've learned to brush them off, lest I lose a very large percentage of the very small list of friends I currently have.
Bah. I'm always expanding on my comments after I make them. Sorry.
I also realized that part of the reason I have a hard time expressing pain/unhappiness of any kind is that people immediately start giving advice in command phrasing.
*hugs* All I can say is that I know exactly what you're talking about. For me, it's to the point that I don't post about certain topics any more. :(
i've found expression is harder in winter, when i'm physically bundled up and there's nothing growing.. going out and taking a walk, or dancing around the room, or anything that gets me back into my body usually helps make connection more natural.
and yeah, i feel you on the not-wanting-directives. it's just frustrating when someone thinks they've got a simple solution for you, when what's going on is way too complicated to have even explained it right. being heard can be more healing than being directed, i guess.
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If it's something that makes you uncomfortable, even if you logically recognise what's going on; then no wonder you don't like posting about pain sometimes if you're frightened of that reaction. It sounds awful. *hugs*
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I think the sky is still sending you such love, with the sun casting long shadows with the rough arms of the trees, and the earth still hugs you closely, closer and closer, drawing you near to zir bosom.
I believe you are earth's child and sky's child. You are a marvelous being of divinity and wild abandonment of pleasure, joy, beauty, and light and love.
Always holding you with such magic it takes my breath away, even as I gently, oh so gently hold the bubble for you.
You are my heart, dear one, with fringe and bells and a beautiful laugh. You lift my heart, you comfort me, and I do believe we're in a place of great transition.
I'm always here for you, sweet dryad. Always holding you as you twirl and spreading a cloak for you to rest on.
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Bah. I'm always expanding on my comments after I make them. Sorry.
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Dammit. I need comment editing.
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*hugs* All I can say is that I know exactly what you're talking about. For me, it's to the point that I don't post about certain topics any more. :(
I hope everything works out. <3
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and yeah, i feel you on the not-wanting-directives. it's just frustrating when someone thinks they've got a simple solution for you, when what's going on is way too complicated to have even explained it right.
being heard can be more healing than being directed, i guess.
:hugs:
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