I'm scared of being stupid too mostly because a lot of men don't find me attractive since I'm not their 'type', and I'm so odd that I feel like eccentricity is the only way to explain my not fitting in.
I guess deep down I could be just a stupid socially awkward person and not smart at all but I'm just going to keep fooling myself :-D
There are alot of different ways of being "smart"--actually, there was a recent study that concluded there are a full nine different "intelligences."
And if the men around you are too idiotic to find you attractive, then forget about them. It's a fully valid fear, but eventually someone who sees you for the wondrousness that you are will show up. ^_^
Very good point about the 9 intelligences, sometimes I wonder how much these schools allow all 9 to be addressed. There may be some brilliant children that go through life feeling stupid just because they didn't score well in the main tests.
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Our poor school systems, they value a balance of book smarts and common sense, since you need both to test well, so alot of brilliant children do go through life feeling stupid. (Hell, Einstien's own second grade teacher told him he was an idiot, because he couldn't do simple math since he just didn't think the same way. Bet she felt stupid later
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I used to try to hide, too. I was always the first person finished with my test, but I would pretend to still be thinking/checking until other people had turned theirs in. The night I was supposed to be given an award for scoring above whatever percentage on the PSAT, I went out to dinner with my family so I wouldn't have to go up on a stage and have people look at me. All my female friends were mad at me the next day, because apparently I was the only girl to get it, and I wasn't there to accept. But calling attention to myself, especially for academics, makes me really uncomfortable.
I get called smart all the time... and whil it annoys me, i couldn't imagine not being "that smart girl". the talented one. the gifted one. it takes so much out of me, but i think it'd be like losing a limb if i suddenly weren't anymore.
I under estimate a lot of the people around me. Or rather, my peers. if someone is as old as me, I won't think them to be on the same level intelletually. It's mainly because I've given up trying to find someone like me in that respect.
I think it's wonderful that you can begin to change. I can't. Not right now. I don't have that faith in God. I don't have anything but my reason right now.
I think I have the same problem. I know that I'm smart and that I can take care of myself. I don't brag about my grades and stuff, because I don't want to come off as being a snob. (By the way PROPS on the SAT. I wish I'd broken 1200, but alas I was an 1190.)I don't want people to shun me for being smart, and I don't want to make people feel lesser than me. Cuz they're not. I think they have more obstacles than me and I was blessed with good skills for school
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I understand what you mean, not being comfortable with God because of the way the church can be... I've been there. Except with me it was more that I wasn't comfortable with God because of how EVERYONE acted and the fact that God didn't strike people dead for doing things that I think cross the line (rape, molestation
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I definitely agree that your personal relationship with God (ie. prayer, talking, etc) is much more important than attendance at church. Though it's good to go if it strengthens your relationship and that's awesome, I still think that you should be able to keep a personal relationship without having to worship with people too and that being that only type of relationship you have with him. I think then, it borders on being a social activity (church worship) than actually enhancing your relationship
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That last paragraph is something that I now believe, though six months ago I would have been filled with despair about. Seeing a hope of healing makes such a huge difference.
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I guess deep down I could be just a stupid socially awkward person and not smart at all but I'm just going to keep fooling myself :-D
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And if the men around you are too idiotic to find you attractive, then forget about them. It's a fully valid fear, but eventually someone who sees you for the wondrousness that you are will show up. ^_^
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*hugs* thank you for your sweet comment, may I add you? I love your icon!
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I under estimate a lot of the people around me. Or rather, my peers. if someone is as old as me, I won't think them to be on the same level intelletually. It's mainly because I've given up trying to find someone like me in that respect.
I think it's wonderful that you can begin to change. I can't. Not right now. I don't have that faith in God. I don't have anything but my reason right now.
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