Comments | belenen: dancing passion / Patricia / missing Kaylene in a wistful way

belenen

dancing passion / Patricia / missing Kaylene in a wistful way

Mar 28, 2005 02:44

The other day at bellydancing I was just so fucking clumsy and inept that I wanted to quit. I was going to go through with it anyway ('cause I can't stand being a quitter), but I had given up hope on it being fun, given up hope on being good at it. I started watching the clock hoping for class to be over.... anyway, after class I changed and went ( Read more... )

names, pain, dancing, spirit, kaylene

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darkpool March 30 2005, 17:35:58 UTC

Learning to dance, or play a sport, or play an instrument takes a long time. Don't worry if you can't do it all yet. In karate everybody sucks when they're a white belt, by the time they're a black belt, a lot fewer of them suck. But that takes at least three years.

belenen April 1 2005, 20:42:52 UTC

thanks, I appreciate that.

anar_anar April 1 2005, 03:45:38 UTC

Bel my dear, I know how much it means to you, but I really do have to tell you that the MAJORITY of it is from the lack of training. You have to understand that it's not something easily picked up or just learned after a few weeks of lessons, you know? People that do know how to do this type of dance have either taken years of lessons or have grown up learning how to dance. Middle Eastern dancing is so different from any type of "American" dancing I've ever seen... Middle Eastern dancing isn't just crap made up as you go along, I mean, there are definite DANCES and MOVES, things you have to remember, funky ways you have to force your body to move... nobody is a real natural... EVERYONE has to work at it... so don't worry about it, and also, don't PUSH yourself... I can't remember ever getting really frustrated when I'd mess up while I was dancing... because of the mindset we have when we dance... it's not a competition or something we HAVE to know... it's just something that... is a part of hte culture. It doesn't matter if you mess ( ... )

belenen April 1 2005, 20:44:38 UTC

thank you so much. Your opinion means a lot, 'cause obviously you know what you're talking about.

And yeah, I think my perfectionism is rearing it's ugly orange head again. I need to destroy that evil monster.

anar_anar April 2 2005, 01:18:48 UTC

And yeah, I think my perfectionism is rearing it's ugly orange head again. I need to destroy that evil monster.

It's an issue lots of people deal with, some struggle more than others, some have it worse than others... one step at a time my lady... It's been so amazing to watch you bloom and to still be following you in your process.

belenen April 2 2005, 07:27:39 UTC

thank you.