Comments | being_fulfilled: It's a dance

being_fulfilled

It's a dance

Feb 01, 2009 14:32

Submission isn't something that people like to talk about much. It conjures images of being a doormat, of being weak, of abuse and domination, and of power struggles and inequality--and all those things are part of the cultural baggage that comes along with submission. And yet, submission is a biblical, godly concept that reflects an image of who ( Read more... )

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karalianne February 2 2009, 00:37:52 UTC

I'm going to be using the traditional vows from the Book of Common Prayer (1962) when Juniper and I get married. I'm also going to be including commentary in the leaflets about the different parts of the ceremony, especially that bit. I have a number of feminists in my extended family, and they will be less than pleased that I will be promising to obey my husband. Thing is, I wouldn't be doing so if I didn't trust him to lead our family in a Godly manner.

Not that submission - to either Juniper or God - is easy! But I totally understand what you're talking about here, and I completely agree.

being_fulfilled February 2 2009, 08:11:59 UTC

We haven't actually discussed whether we'll use the word "obey" or not--since in the end, it's not about arbitrarily obeying another person, but it's about both of us being ultimately obedient to God. We'll see... we've decided a lot of details about our wedding, but that's one we haven't gotten to yet!

spectralbovine February 2 2009, 08:00:05 UTC

I knew you'd make it sound all nice and lovely! There's a lot to think about in this post; thank you for writing it. Do you mind if I link it tomorrow night?

You and Colin are totally the Jim-and-Pam of the GGMM.

being_fulfilled February 2 2009, 08:09:50 UTC

Heh. Well, nice and lovely is better than, "What?! She's psycho!"

And no, I don't mind at all.

jennachase February 4 2009, 02:06:32 UTC

Amen!