A Date By Any Other Name

[beccnigga]

A friend of mine posed an interesting question in her journal: what constitutes a "date"; i.e., what elements must be present (or perhaps absent) for an outing involving two people to be considered a "date."

First we must clarify the general meaning of the term "date," as the question posed was not so much what is a date in literal sense, but

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[lostboi22]

Have I mentioned how much I LOVE you?!?! lol

Presented the way you did, apparently I've been on a lot more dates than I thought. Go figure. And as for the night in question, it was hella a date.

Of course it's all crystal clear after the fact.

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[beccnigga]

Love ya back, dear.

Would you agree that our generation is a lot more wary, or perhaps just more casual, about calling a date a date? It seems like our parents and grandparents seemed to "date" in a more traditional sense than we do.

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[lostboi22]

Yes, I would. "Date" is a very loaded word. I for one won't call it a date unless I am absolutely sure the other party views it the same way. Otherwise, it's a non-date.
I mean, I could go on for days about euphemisms and other ways around it.
Can I see you? I want to spend some time with you. May I take you out? Wanna hang out? We're just talking, friends, "friends," etc etc. I've used and heard most if not all of these at some point.
A "date" feels like pressure. Like there might actually be something there. Or at least the remote possibility of maybe something being there.

I think it depends on who you ask. Some people because they are wary, others because such interactions are extremely casual. Hell Sometimes I wonder if anyone dates anymore, or are they all just fucking? lol

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[supresmooth]

Which is weird, because dating didn't used to mean that. I used to mean that you were getting to know someone to SEE if you wanted to be exclusive with them or not. People dated because they weren't sure yet or didn't have enough information to make a decision.

[supresmooth]

Unf!

[beccnigga]

I'm not fluent in grunt. ;D

[supresmooth]

Uh . . . I guess that's like an affirmative with celebration.

[elrenia_andune]

you should write a book...no seriously...you're like,...a cross between ellen degeneres and oprah. HOT lol

[beccnigga]

I've tried and failed several times to write a book. I don't think I have the commitment for anything longer than a short story.

Find me a publisher and we'll talk. ;D

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[elrenia_andune]

I can do that.....:D *I have a similar problem, but for me, it's not commitment...it's attention span...lol*