Honey. Go see a doctor. This doesn't make you a bad person or a weak person. It is definitely an issue, and one you need to address. You've had a lot of sources of stress--moving to a new city is a source of stress, even if you've lived there before and want to live there, school is a source of stress, and being broke is a MAJOR source of stress. You have an impressive command of your life, and a charisma and sense of style that will still be there even if your hair isn't
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I already went to see a doctor the first time my hair started falling out several years ago. I'm not certain if it's really stopped, it just seems to be falling out MORE lately. When I went, they really did very little tests and ended up telling me it was just stress, don't worry so much and it'll stop. It hasn't stopped. So, I have very little hope for a medical solution to any of this, I might have to go for a mental solution.
And strangely, it really is my hair that is forcing me to seek any sort of help at all. If it wasn't falling out, I'd probably just ignore all this.
I ditto Kisekileia. Ask your family for some assistance if you need it and at least see a doctor once. I'm not actually convinced that you keep yourself mentally healthy. Sane, sure, but an inability to relax isn't healthy, insomnia for more than one night is a definite problem.
If I were to venture a guess, it sounds like your not prioritizing enough or correctly, or perhaps there is another source to the problem yet unknown. Kisekileia is completely right about having new soruces of stress and we both know you aren't exactly one to look on the positive side so all this "negative energy" to give it a name might be piling up. We'll be here if you need to talk it out but the holidays are the most stressful time of year and being completely self-reliant is a personality fault, at least in my book.
Hrm. I know the feeling - there will *always* be something to worry / stress about if you look for it. Sometimes just pushing through it is a way to ignore it and let it get rooted deeper though.
Money - always a stress factor. However, people tend to understand that one pretty well. I'd say try not to stress over not being able to go as all-out on presents, but I also know that tends to be an effort in futility on my part :-P. Just remember that things work themselves out - do what you can, keep a healthy amount of concern (makes sure the important things get done), and take care of yourself too.
And above all, find / schedule yourself a little downtime to relax - even if it doesn't seem like much time. Stress is a real b!tch...
Phil has a point, people understand a lack of money. I think that a lot more people are broke this year. I would LOVE to have a party where I could provide all the goodies I could. I tried for a party a couple weeks ago and invited all these people... made all this food... and 5 people showed up
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Ditto the comment that people will understand about the money thing. I've talked to my family about my being broke this year, and they're totally accepting of my plan to spend around $20 per person instead of my usual $35 for immediate family members.
i know from anxiety. No fun. i'm sorry. If you want to vent, you can always email me (lately i'm much better in emails than ims, less immediate and scary).
Let me know when you're free after you're back in TO and I'll take you shoe shopping as your x-mas present.
And Call me ANY time you feel lonely or just need to talk. If I can't talk right away I'll call you back ASAP.
I don't know what kind of phone plan you're on and if this may result in additional financial stress, text/IM me and I'll call you back if that'll save you money.
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And strangely, it really is my hair that is forcing me to seek any sort of help at all. If it wasn't falling out, I'd probably just ignore all this.
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And regardless of your hair, if anxiety is keeping you up till dawn, you need to do something about it.
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If I were to venture a guess, it sounds like your not prioritizing enough or correctly, or perhaps there is another source to the problem yet unknown. Kisekileia is completely right about having new soruces of stress and we both know you aren't exactly one to look on the positive side so all this "negative energy" to give it a name might be piling up. We'll be here if you need to talk it out but the holidays are the most stressful time of year and being completely self-reliant is a personality fault, at least in my book.
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Money - always a stress factor. However, people tend to understand that one pretty well. I'd say try not to stress over not being able to go as all-out on presents, but I also know that tends to be an effort in futility on my part :-P. Just remember that things work themselves out - do what you can, keep a healthy amount of concern (makes sure the important things get done), and take care of yourself too.
And above all, find / schedule yourself a little downtime to relax - even if it doesn't seem like much time. Stress is a real b!tch...
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i know from anxiety. No fun. i'm sorry. If you want to vent, you can always email me (lately i'm much better in emails than ims, less immediate and scary).
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And Call me ANY time you feel lonely or just need to talk. If I can't talk right away I'll call you back ASAP.
I don't know what kind of phone plan you're on and if this may result in additional financial stress, text/IM me and I'll call you back if that'll save you money.
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