Maybe a great magnet pulls all souls towards truth

[beandelphiki]

Way back in, oh, November, a [radical? I think] feminist blogger on Wordpress who goes by the moniker Nine Deuce posted a series which she called, "BDSM (the sexual equivalent of being into renaissance faires)It's a deeply insulting series of posts. (Both to BDSM practitioners AND people into Renaissance Faires!) She basically condemns all kink

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[euclase]

I mean...are you kidding me?! Like I haven't thought about this since I was 9 years old. I didn't just get handed this idea in adulthood and asked to form an opinion and went, "Oh, that looks excellent. Think I'll defend that."

Yes. Exactly this.

Your reply was very interesting, and I agree. I think there's a lot of precious snowflake baggage in anti-BDSM arguments, most of which are blind to the fact that kinks can be amazingly helpful, healthy, and freeing. Everyone has a perversion, but who actually calls it a 'perversion' fucks it all up for the rest of us. So to speak. Lol, I have 'Left Hand of Darkness' around here someplace...

Also, thanks for sharing your story. I was not at all harmed in the making of this motion picture! <3

[beandelphiki]

Oh, there's more types of baggage than I can count. Which is not to say that the pro side is all completely self-aware (far from it), but I find it really frustrating that the BDSMers are constantly dealing with accusations about abuse (past or present) and histories of violence while the anti side gives itself a free pass.

Somewhere in there more than one woman saying she was once into BDSM (for obviously fucked-up personal reasons like, "because I was angry at men,"), but now she's not because she realised how awful/hateful/abusive it is. And they don't call that out in each other, generally. Because regardless of their own personal histories with abuse or violence, they're on the RIGHT side.

Also, that sounds like an interesting book to check out, thanks.

I was not at all harmed in the making of this motion picture! <3

Glad to hear it. :)

[hry2007]

Well put.

[beandelphiki]

Thank you. It's hard to find words for this stuff.

[t_eyla]

This was really, really interesting to read. Thanks for sharing something that must be very personal to you. It gave me Stuff to think about.

I do think you're right when you say that certain experiences may shape one's kinks, but they're not what make a person kinky. The two things need to be kept apart.

[beandelphiki]

It was personal, thank you. In a way, it's more uncomfortable to talk about than saying I'm queer. One of the most obvious arguments to make in favour of treating queer people like regular human beings is that it's not intrinsically harmful to anyone to be queer, or to have queer relationships

[weird_fin]

Glad to see that their are people sticking up for and reasonably explaining the reason and beliefs behind them.
Instead of accusatory accsuations usually based nothing but on sole emtions or feeling which those who can't be bothered to explain or accept in themselves...i for one am probably one of those people half the time. An uplifting but also throughly thought provoking post. (the whole lj post)

[beandelphiki]

Cool, glad you liked it.

There are some people on that thread who are always class acts (Trinity, for example), but I personally doubt they're doing any good when it comes to the people involved. (Who don't want to listen.)

Still, I always think there could be someone just watching who understands the whole issue a bit better because of this discussion/debate/argument/flame war, and that's good.