*headshakes* This is the guy who yelled at me when I was 16 because I didn't have job. I broke down and bawled and tried to explain that I wanted a job, I just didn't think I was capable of flipping burgers, I was too stupid.
He spent the intervening years until I got a job (at 20) telling me that I needed to get over the idea that I was "too good" for fast food.
You've had similar situations with your family? I just don't get how people can live together for so long, and not "see" each other at all.
That's what my mother said! Actually, she was really peeved with his answers. Like I pointed out how he said, "rarely" to the question about organizing, and her eyeballs almost rolled out of her head.
She started going on and on about how disgusting my room was as a child, and how every time she wanted me to clean my room we had to have another discussion about HOW cleaning is carried out (I really didn't understand the process very well), and how she had to take pictures of it and show them to me just to get me to "see" the mess, etc., etc.
She said, "You tell that doctor who spent more time with you, and who had to deal with the school when they called home!"
...I mean, I KNOW that at least a few of my dad's answers are REALLY off. More than the whole issue of how this confounds diagnosis, I'm upset over the fact that he CAN answer this way, after living with me for 18 YEARS.
*sighs*
Hi, by the way! *sheepish* You seem to be feeling a bit better...?
And yes - it does, doesn't it? Not necessarily his fault: Mom says he was always away on business trips when I was a kid, which may be why he can't remember. I didn't remember that at all, but she says that especially in the winter (half the school year!) he was gone 3 or more weeks out of four.
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*headshakes* This is the guy who yelled at me when I was 16 because I didn't have job. I broke down and bawled and tried to explain that I wanted a job, I just didn't think I was capable of flipping burgers, I was too stupid.
He spent the intervening years until I got a job (at 20) telling me that I needed to get over the idea that I was "too good" for fast food.
You've had similar situations with your family? I just don't get how people can live together for so long, and not "see" each other at all.
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That's what my mother said! Actually, she was really peeved with his answers. Like I pointed out how he said, "rarely" to the question about organizing, and her eyeballs almost rolled out of her head.
She started going on and on about how disgusting my room was as a child, and how every time she wanted me to clean my room we had to have another discussion about HOW cleaning is carried out (I really didn't understand the process very well), and how she had to take pictures of it and show them to me just to get me to "see" the mess, etc., etc.
She said, "You tell that doctor who spent more time with you, and who had to deal with the school when they called home!"
...I mean, I KNOW that at least a few of my dad's answers are REALLY off. More than the whole issue of how this confounds diagnosis, I'm upset over the fact that he CAN answer this way, after living with me for 18 YEARS.
*sighs*
Hi, by the way! *sheepish* You seem to be feeling a bit better...?
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*shrugs* More stable, anyway. Not happy. Wah.
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Seems almost like the "RARELY" applies more to his paying you any attention rather than the actual questions asked.
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And yes - it does, doesn't it? Not necessarily his fault: Mom says he was always away on business trips when I was a kid, which may be why he can't remember. I didn't remember that at all, but she says that especially in the winter (half the school year!) he was gone 3 or more weeks out of four.
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