Giving Oral Sex: Dominant or Submissive Activity?

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At first blush, it seems like giving oral sex is a submissive activity. You’re giving pleasure to another, and it’s as simple as that.

Or is it?

When I first started thinking about this, I had heard people in the past talk about how giving oral sex is a sign of dominance. The first time I heard it, I was sort of confused as to how that could be

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Re: Waffling...

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Yeah, my point is that giving head isn't by nature a dominant or submissive activity; it can easily be either, or neither. And even between two people, that can change every time -- or even during a given experience. It's like... well, kissing, that way.

Communication (whether verbal, body language, or whatever) is definitely important even in giving head. On the basic level, you're telling your partner what you like. On a deeper level, part of the enjoyment they get out of it is your enjoyment, so let them know when it feels good! Nobody (okay, well very few people) wants to give head to a lifeless doll. Whether I'm swirling my tongue around your clit or shoving my fist inside of you (or better yet, both at once), I want to feel you writhe, hear you gasp and moan and babble dirty things.