I can imagine a 20 year old not having had anything she recognized as sexual feelings -- but my imagination would be a late-blooming geeky type.
But when such a person finally notices that a guy is attractive to her, I would expect her fantasies to be about him kissing her, or possibly a little bit more than that.
It sounds like this author went too far in both directions.
I don't know what the deal is with romance novels. So many of them are not even close to any sort of romance I would like to have and they most certainly do not represent any romantic fantasy I have ever had.
Domineering control freak man? Uh no. Rapist man? @($* NO! Girl becomes incompetent as soon as she meets man? No. Slut man? No. They fall in bed during a heated argument? No, when my ex and I fought the last thing I wanted was o get in his pants. Slap him upside the head, maybe but not hop in the sack.
Well, TMI time. I didn't experience a glimmer of a recognizable sex drive until I was out of college. I could imagine "what it would be like" to sleep with a person I liked but I never really felt anything about it in anything but an abstract sense. "Sex is supposed to be good, so that would probably feel nice to do with a person I like." I can't really explain it but one day I just discovered there were actually things that turned me on. In retrospect it was kind of weird, but everyone does kind of have their own thing going on.
The variety of human experience never fails to amaze me!
I hope your situation wasn't the same as this character's though. (I didn't read thoroughly, but I started to get the impression there was some sort of psychological baggage/very repressive upbringing that created the situation.)
Thankfully, no. I think I was actually kind of self-repressed. Most everyone else in my family developed early in that sense as far as I know. I'm not sure if it was a chemical thing or what, but I just never went in search of porn or eroticism the way it seems to be assumed that people of that age do.
That said, my brother actually may be/have been the same way, as he's never expressed interest in girls (or guys) in the time I've known him. So if he ever developed a sex drive he's been very private about it.
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But when such a person finally notices that a guy is attractive to her, I would expect her fantasies to be about him kissing her, or possibly a little bit more than that.
It sounds like this author went too far in both directions.
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Domineering control freak man? Uh no.
Rapist man? @($* NO!
Girl becomes incompetent as soon as she meets man? No.
Slut man? No.
They fall in bed during a heated argument? No, when my ex and I fought the last thing I wanted was o get in his pants. Slap him upside the head, maybe but not hop in the sack.
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I hope your situation wasn't the same as this character's though. (I didn't read thoroughly, but I started to get the impression there was some sort of psychological baggage/very repressive upbringing that created the situation.)
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That said, my brother actually may be/have been the same way, as he's never expressed interest in girls (or guys) in the time I've known him. So if he ever developed a sex drive he's been very private about it.
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