What a sh*tty situation! I can only hope your sister finds some decency and allows you to stay. I like the idea that excentric397 made about getting another person to speak to your sister, possibly a lawyer/solicitor(?) or a health worker who can stress the importance financially (the solicitor) and mentally/physically (health employee) of you staying where you are. Unfortunately it sounds like you'll need to plan for the worst. :( I'm hoping for the best for you though. Keep us posted.
I'll be contacting a charity which helps prevent homelessness tomorrow, they should ber able to give advice and support. I can't afford a solicitor unless the charity knows someone who would work for free.
This is your home, and you've lived there for so long and it's your haven! I can't believe your sister can't get her head out of her arse far enough to see what she's doing to you, but yeah...insensitive isn't a strong enough word. I wish there was something I could do to help, but if there is anything please let me know, okay? It's too bad we live so far away from each other. Or maybe it's not, because I'd be so very tempted to give your sister a piece of my mind, and that might not be for the best.
I don't know for sure yet that she wants to sell up, but sadly mum didn't think to put a clause in her will to let me stay here as long as I needed to. She wanted to treat my sister and I the same, which is understandable, but a bit unrealistic since our situations are different. My sister and her partner both have jobs while I'm unable to work. Getting half the proceeds from the house sale would mean losing my benefits, so all I'd have to live on would be the money from the sale, and I think we'd get a lot less for this place than my sister would expect, plus we'd have to pay back the money the local government loaned mum for improvements before splitting what was left. I very much doubt mum would have expected my sister to demand her share of the house right away. If that's what happens, well, I don't know what I'll do.
*hugs* I'm not an expert when it comes to law, but since the house belongs to you both now, can she really just sell it like that without your agreement? Either way, I'd try to get a lawyer asap, just in case.
I don't think she can sell it out from under me, but she could demand her share, which I have no way to pay. I can't afford to pay a lawyer to fight my side either, I'm going to need every penny I've got.
I'm so sorry to hear this! Your sister sounds horrible. I agree with the other comments here--see who you can get to advise you of your rights and options a.s.a.p. There may even be information online about such situations, which must be pretty common, when you come to think about it.
And take heart--if worst comes to worst and you have to put it on the market, the odds of it selling will be pretty slim, if your economy and housing market is anything like ours across the pond! My street is full of vacant houses that have been sitting on the market for years. Perhaps when your sister realizes this isn't the instant cash cow she's expecting, she'll back off.
I can only hope things won't turn out to be as bad as they seem right now. There's a charity I can call, which I'll do first thing tomorrow, and I'll talk to my doctor on Tuesday, he might have some advice. There's nothing I can do on a weekend. Maybe I'm wrong about what she meant in the text, I won't know until we all sit down and talk. I'm sure when mum left everything to split between us equally, she thought my sister would look out for me.
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Unfortunately it sounds like you'll need to plan for the worst. :(
I'm hoping for the best for you though. Keep us posted.
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I'll be contacting a charity which helps prevent homelessness tomorrow, they should ber able to give advice and support. I can't afford a solicitor unless the charity knows someone who would work for free.
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This is your home, and you've lived there for so long and it's your haven! I can't believe your sister can't get her head out of her arse far enough to see what she's doing to you, but yeah...insensitive isn't a strong enough word. I wish there was something I could do to help, but if there is anything please let me know, okay? It's too bad we live so far away from each other. Or maybe it's not, because I'd be so very tempted to give your sister a piece of my mind, and that might not be for the best.
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I don't know for sure yet that she wants to sell up, but sadly mum didn't think to put a clause in her will to let me stay here as long as I needed to. She wanted to treat my sister and I the same, which is understandable, but a bit unrealistic since our situations are different. My sister and her partner both have jobs while I'm unable to work. Getting half the proceeds from the house sale would mean losing my benefits, so all I'd have to live on would be the money from the sale, and I think we'd get a lot less for this place than my sister would expect, plus we'd have to pay back the money the local government loaned mum for improvements before splitting what was left. I very much doubt mum would have expected my sister to demand her share of the house right away. If that's what happens, well, I don't know what I'll do.
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I'm not an expert when it comes to law, but since the house belongs to you both now, can she really just sell it like that without your agreement?
Either way, I'd try to get a lawyer asap, just in case.
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I don't think she can sell it out from under me, but she could demand her share, which I have no way to pay. I can't afford to pay a lawyer to fight my side either, I'm going to need every penny I've got.
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And take heart--if worst comes to worst and you have to put it on the market, the odds of it selling will be pretty slim, if your economy and housing market is anything like ours across the pond! My street is full of vacant houses that have been sitting on the market for years. Perhaps when your sister realizes this isn't the instant cash cow she's expecting, she'll back off.
*HUGS*
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I can only hope things won't turn out to be as bad as they seem right now. There's a charity I can call, which I'll do first thing tomorrow, and I'll talk to my doctor on Tuesday, he might have some advice. There's nothing I can do on a weekend. Maybe I'm wrong about what she meant in the text, I won't know until we all sit down and talk. I'm sure when mum left everything to split between us equally, she thought my sister would look out for me.
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