What is his problem again? If he really needed to have it in his app that his is has a huge dick then I am sure there would be another part where he could have added that with out being offending.
As a mod too I wouldn't bring personal matters in judging an app, so we're different on that point I suppose.
And it's not a panfandom game, she said herself something about the meme in her first comment on said app. And the meme isn't as offensive as calling someone a fag, it's not a direct attack to trans-gendered people, just the mention of an obviously fake penis size. I'm pretty sure most people wouldn't think it was offensive unless told it is. Beside as I said I apologized more than once by now.
Being sensitive to trans issues isn't BRINGING PERSONAL MATTERS INTO JUDGMENT, it's BRINGING SENSITIVITY TO ISSUES INTO JUDGMENT. If you had said something like using the word "fag", and the mod had said you were being offensive to gays, would you say that was "bringing personal matters in" as well?
She wouldn't bring personal matters in it since it would be a direct insult. If it was something anyone would consider as unrelated to gays, and she said she felt offended herself, then yes I'd consider it bringing personal matters in, because it would be assuming I meant something I didn't mean and never thought of in the first place.
It's not about bringing personal matters into an app. But it did affect the OP personally, and that will sting that much more. It's about common human decency and caring about not hurting others.
I'm sorry, is there a flow chart of how offensive words are? How is this "not as offensive as calling someone a fag"? It offended someone, they called you on it, the end. That's all that matters here, that your language offended someone -- whether intentionally or unintentionally -- and when called on it, you acted like a stubborn child and continue to defend yourself in the comments here.
I'm not asking you to apologize again. But it's pretty clear that you don't understand what you've apologized for by the way you're still defending yourself and trying to justify your actions.
But digging your heels in and refusing to take it down out of sheer spite because you're bothered about being called on transphobic language is ridiculous and childish.
As is demanding everything that offends you be deleted from existence.
Now from what I read that's not the case, it was a misunderstanding, but before that...yea. I would have asked for an explanation fist too, so I could understand what I have done that's so wrong. There ARE mods/admins on RP sites out there that are very controlling and powertrippy, unfortunately.
Not when it's offensive language. There's a huge difference between "I want you to delete the fact that your character's hair is purple" and "I want you to remove this ~ism from your profile".
The issues is NOT asking for clarification. The issue is asking for it, then childishly refusing to delete it out of spite. The player admitted it themselves, they refused to delete it just because they didn't like being transphobic, and because they put words into the mod's mouth.
You could probably have put this better, 'cause it's way too easy to overlook the part where you say that what happened to the OP wasn't actually a case of them demanding everything that offends them be deleted from existence.
Please see the red text at the top of the rules in the userinfo, then feel free to wonder why you've been banned. ^_^
Also, FYI, you and xenafox might want to friend each other since you seem to have a few interests in common--namely that people need to get thicker skins, not taking something down after you've been told why it's offensive and you both seem to find rape funny. bedintrudersock, really? Really?
I think what happened here was that bedintrudersock didn't understand what was offensive about it (and assumed the mod was being oversensitive, I guess?), and wouldn't take it down unless the mod told them what, specifically, was wrong with it. That didn't happen so now we have this BRPS post.
It seems less than sensible to take this tack with mods. Also needlessly antagonistic.
a) Oh sorry, I did not know it could offend someone - I'll remove it but I actually don't understand exactly what was offensive about it, please explain.
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b) Oh what, offensive you say? I am afraid you have to convince me of that first before I am going to remove it.
You can probably guess which one you were and what I think about it.
What is his problem again? If he really needed to have it in his app that his is has a huge dick then I am sure there would be another part where he could have added that with out being offending.
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And it's not a panfandom game, she said herself something about the meme in her first comment on said app. And the meme isn't as offensive as calling someone a fag, it's not a direct attack to trans-gendered people, just the mention of an obviously fake penis size. I'm pretty sure most people wouldn't think it was offensive unless told it is. Beside as I said I apologized more than once by now.
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JUST BECAUSE YOU DIDN'T INTEND TO OFFEND SOMEONE DOESN'T MEAN YOU DIDN'T
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I'm sorry, is there a flow chart of how offensive words are? How is this "not as offensive as calling someone a fag"? It offended someone, they called you on it, the end. That's all that matters here, that your language offended someone -- whether intentionally or unintentionally -- and when called on it, you acted like a stubborn child and continue to defend yourself in the comments here.
I'm not asking you to apologize again. But it's pretty clear that you don't understand what you've apologized for by the way you're still defending yourself and trying to justify your actions.
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As is demanding everything that offends you be deleted from existence.
Now from what I read that's not the case, it was a misunderstanding, but before that...yea. I would have asked for an explanation fist too, so I could understand what I have done that's so wrong. There ARE mods/admins on RP sites out there that are very controlling and powertrippy, unfortunately.
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The issues is NOT asking for clarification. The issue is asking for it, then childishly refusing to delete it out of spite. The player admitted it themselves, they refused to delete it just because they didn't like being transphobic, and because they put words into the mod's mouth.
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Also, FYI, you and xenafox might want to friend each other since you seem to have a few interests in common--namely that people need to get thicker skins, not taking something down after you've been told why it's offensive and you both seem to find rape funny. bedintrudersock, really? Really?
Yeah, you can go fuck off.
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It seems less than sensible to take this tack with mods. Also needlessly antagonistic.
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a) Oh sorry, I did not know it could offend someone - I'll remove it but I actually don't understand exactly what was offensive about it, please explain.
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b) Oh what, offensive you say? I am afraid you have to convince me of that first before I am going to remove it.
You can probably guess which one you were and what I think about it.
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