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[babyslime]

The internet is all atwitter regarding this controversial post that an author wrote about struggling with her feelings of favouring her infant son over her three year old daughter. Other mommy bloggers are calling it an "overshare" or "dangerous", "worrisome" and a number of other typical overreactions that mommy bloggers are famous for. This is

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[aschalady]

Thank you. I needed to see this so badly today.

[babyslime]

As I said to someone else recently, I've definitely had my moments. Fortunately, I'm a real person capable of growth and change and have continued to learn and grow as I shuffle and stumble through life. ;)

[devilgrrl]

I read the article and I'm glad she had the balls to share that. My post-partum period has sucked and I frequently worry that I won't ever be able to properly connect to my daughter, that I won't ever feel the "right" love for her, or that I'll always wish things were different. There are days when she's crying when I wish I could let her out into the breezeway like I do with the cat when he's obnoxious.

I've been blogging about the whole thing and, when my daughter is old enough, I certainly intend to tell her about this long before she has a chance to "find" it and need all kinds of expensive therapy. (We're saving that for calling her Piggles.)

I think the author's daughter is far better off for having a mother who can admit she has these feelings than someone who refuses to accept they might have and issue and puts on a sunshine and roses front.

[babyslime]

My postpartum period with Tempest was very similar: between undiagnosed PPD, severe colic and years of undiagnosed autism... it was hard. Having Xan put a lot of it into perspective for me, and on one hand made me feel better for knowing right away that there WAS something "off", and on the other made me feel horrible because he was so much easier in every way and it underlined the struggle all the more

[skyrose]

I haven't run across this blogger (tho chances are, I will in a few days... Seems most circles are intertwined enough that if you are in a Mom's circle, they appear *sigh*), but I can sympathize with her -- and with you too

[babyslime]

Good for you for using a blog as a therapeutic outlet for those feelings and finding a way to help yourself through the tough times. That's one of the best things you can do - idiots aside - to make things better for everyone

[gardenmama]

My blog is separate from my personal life. I've made a lot of good friends through LJ, but none of my RL friends know my LJ identity. It is more freeing to talk openly about thing and not worry about being judged by someone you know.

And I can't imagine someone saying they should call CPS on you because you had a stressful day with trying children. That is just ... fucked. I'm sorry you've had that experience with blogging :(

[jenrose1]

damnyouautocorrect=best laugh in ages, ty, needed that.

I love my teenager more than my 6 year old right now, because my teenager doesn't try to break my nose or slap me randomly. It's just how I roll, y'know? And when my teenager was four, and liked to bite and kick me, I didn't like her very much then, either.

We don't love our kids the same, because they're not the same. Why is that hard for people to understand? We're "supposed" to be equal in our love, but y'know what? We're humans, not robots. And so things are not equal. The difference between good parents and bad parents:

All parents occasionally want to chuck the baby out the window. Good parents don't actually do it.

It's not how we THINK or FEEL but how we ACT towards our kids that really matters, and ultimately, how we act is really the only thing we can control in ourselves.

[babyslime]

Perfectly said.