Assertiveness [and friends]

[aylira_tesayon]

It seems that I've had a rather bizarre assumption rattling around in my brain. Apparently at one point I decided being assertive would mean I never had anyone who liked me. WTF. This of course is not backed up by any friends I've had, and perhaps only by some poisoned communication from another situation (names omitted to protect the, in the

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[mantic_angel]

"which is to tear apart and examine *everything*, something that continues with everything already in my mind"

Glad to know I'm not the only one who does this :)

"people who speak in certainties confuse me deeply"

Oddly, for me, my tendency to tear everything apart results in the opposite - I simply discard most assertions of certainty.

It goes the other way, too. My brain just assumes that people will strip out any assertiveness I project. I've found this often confuses people, because I can speak with absolute convinction on entirely fictional and/or absurd concepts.

Learning to actually be assertive in the dominant "I am correct" way took a while for me, though. I had to reprogram my brain to have the concept first. To me, everything is contingency chains and flowcharts. I'm agonstic about gravity, much less what to do for dinner :)

*hugs* I hope all of this works out well for you.