Married/Single/Mommy/Childless Friends

[author_by_night]

So the internet has been talking about this for a while now - friends with kids versus friends who don't have them, single friends versus married friends, etc. We get videos like this, where Moms woefully explain why they can't talk to their childless friends anymore, and corresponding comments saying those Moms are selfish

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[author_by_night]

That's lousy. :(

[lynn82md]

I'm a strange individual. I never thought anything has changed between my friends and I because of marriage as well as children. I also don't pay attention much to how I think how my friends who are married, single, childless (or childfree if they never want kids ever), and parents should be. I guess the reason for my lack of expectations and not giving it much thought is similar to when you asked about women wearing pants to a wedding almost.

The reason is I just don't think about it because I'm a strong individualist. I vehemently believe in the philosophy of "Live & Let Live" where I let people live the lives they want to live while I live mine the way I live (which does factor into individualism a lot impo). Then, with individualism itself...I believe that everyone is different in their own unique and special way, so I don't expect them to go along what the rest of society expects of them if they are a particular martial status as well as have kids or not.

[author_by_night]

Honestly, I think some people make a bigger deal out of the "my friends have kids/don't have kids" thing than need be, hence this post. You're right that everyone IS different, and in a different situation regardless of what the situation is. Not to mention ideas of fun. I have time to go to clubs on the weekends... it's just not something I enjoy doing.

[ragnarok_08]

That really is interesting, and it is true that getting married and/or having kids can change friendships.