September 2, 2007: Heartbroken
Originally posted on September 2, 2007. Reposted to this journal June 28, 2009.
Because, of course, the best solution is inviting a rapist who targets drunk women to hang out and play drinking games. And then post photos on facebook.
Oh, I am pissed.
I wrote Caroline an email warning her, reminding her what he did. She ignored it, continued posting photos that I would inevitably see. Infact, she posted photos of a "get-together" just days after I arrived in town. I sent her a quick note that said, "We need to talk." It was very simple, no mention of anything because I felt we needed to talk in person and not trade emails on something this serious. I was hurt by her actions, but moreso I was worried about *her.*
This is her response.
Dear Missy,
I have a feeling that you want to talk about a certain situation. Even if this is not what you want to talk about...it needs to be discussed. I do not feel comfortable discussing it because what I think may upset you. How I view the situation may make it seem that I am insensitive or callous. However I have thought about it long and hard and I don't want you to doubt that i respect your emotions and what you are going through but I am unsure how to feel at this point. However, I do know that I need to be honest with you about how I feel. You deserve my honesty even though I know my honesty and feelings may test our friendship. i didnt want to discuss this with you on AIM or email or on the phone. From what you told me when it initially happened, I am still unsure as to what exactly occured. I do not feel it is right to automatically take one person's side when both parties involved have been good friends and done many kind gestures. There is so much confussion at this point that makes it hard for me to put all the pieces together. The bottomline and the most important thing that you should take away from this is that I do care about you and I respect your feelings but I do need to be honest with you--I cannot cut off a friendship with one person without that many details and like I said before I did not want to discuss this on email or the phone. I want to discuss this further with you in person so I know the whole story.
Caroline
This girl broke my heart, and I am not sure if I will ever truly forgive her.
Because, of course, the best solution is inviting a rapist who targets drunk women to hang out and play drinking games. And then post photos on facebook.
Oh, I am pissed.
I wrote Caroline an email warning her, reminding her what he did. She ignored it, continued posting photos that I would inevitably see. Infact, she posted photos of a "get-together" just days after I arrived in town. I sent her a quick note that said, "We need to talk." It was very simple, no mention of anything because I felt we needed to talk in person and not trade emails on something this serious. I was hurt by her actions, but moreso I was worried about *her.*
This is her response.
Dear Missy,
I have a feeling that you want to talk about a certain situation. Even if this is not what you want to talk about...it needs to be discussed. I do not feel comfortable discussing it because what I think may upset you. How I view the situation may make it seem that I am insensitive or callous. However I have thought about it long and hard and I don't want you to doubt that i respect your emotions and what you are going through but I am unsure how to feel at this point. However, I do know that I need to be honest with you about how I feel. You deserve my honesty even though I know my honesty and feelings may test our friendship. i didnt want to discuss this with you on AIM or email or on the phone. From what you told me when it initially happened, I am still unsure as to what exactly occured. I do not feel it is right to automatically take one person's side when both parties involved have been good friends and done many kind gestures. There is so much confussion at this point that makes it hard for me to put all the pieces together. The bottomline and the most important thing that you should take away from this is that I do care about you and I respect your feelings but I do need to be honest with you--I cannot cut off a friendship with one person without that many details and like I said before I did not want to discuss this on email or the phone. I want to discuss this further with you in person so I know the whole story.
Caroline
This girl broke my heart, and I am not sure if I will ever truly forgive her.