June, 2007: Phonecall, On Victim Blaming
Originally posted on June 14, 2007. Reposted to this journal June 28, 2009.
It's always fun to receive a phone call from a cheerful young woman from the hospital informing me I owe $100 for the emergency room visit when I was previously informed that I was not responsible for any costs because in the cases of rape, the state pays the difference.
I just really, really didn't want to get that phone call.
Originally posted on June 28, 2007.
When I am a bigshot corporate lawyer, I will set aside time and money to do pro bono cases against these assholes who think that rape, assault and molestation are perfectly acceptable behaviour.
One of my longtime friends was sexually assaulted on her way to class outside a fucking police school!
It enrages me that people can tell a young women that she HAS to go forward to the police after an assault, and then when I step up and say,"No. She doesn't. It is scary, and she needs to make the right choice for her. When someone tells a survivor that she or he should go to the police, it is victim blaming, not matter how good the intentions," those same people turn on me and tell me I have no idea what I am talking about, that this girl HAS to at least think of future victims, that she HAS to do something to get this guy in jail.
NO NO NO NO NO!
THe only thing she has to do is take care of herself, you assholes.
It's always fun to receive a phone call from a cheerful young woman from the hospital informing me I owe $100 for the emergency room visit when I was previously informed that I was not responsible for any costs because in the cases of rape, the state pays the difference.
I just really, really didn't want to get that phone call.
Originally posted on June 28, 2007.
When I am a bigshot corporate lawyer, I will set aside time and money to do pro bono cases against these assholes who think that rape, assault and molestation are perfectly acceptable behaviour.
One of my longtime friends was sexually assaulted on her way to class outside a fucking police school!
It enrages me that people can tell a young women that she HAS to go forward to the police after an assault, and then when I step up and say,"No. She doesn't. It is scary, and she needs to make the right choice for her. When someone tells a survivor that she or he should go to the police, it is victim blaming, not matter how good the intentions," those same people turn on me and tell me I have no idea what I am talking about, that this girl HAS to at least think of future victims, that she HAS to do something to get this guy in jail.
NO NO NO NO NO!
THe only thing she has to do is take care of herself, you assholes.